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Having a moment where I'm suddenly aware that there's going to be a day where my cat passes, and it will be sooner rather than later as she's getting old, and there's nothing I can do to protect her.
She's been a constant companion for a very long time, and I'm not ready for that day.
How the fuck do youse deal with these kinds of feelings? First time in a long time that the waterworks kicked off and my anxiety is doing shit I really am not okay with
Part of daylights savings is getting used to the fact that the very hottest part of the day is quite often towards the end of the day.
Whose bright idea was it to have Start-of-The-Month, Monday-After-Daylight-Savings, Monday-After-a-Long-Weekend and Monday-After-a-Short-Week all on one day!?
Might have to bail on work after 2 hours. Thank you DT for your kind comments. 💜💜💜
If you gotta, you gotta.
Hope you feel better soon!
Ugh threw up on the bus. Blehhhhh the other passengers hate meeeee. Pray for me.
It really stings that, having been pushed by Dad to apologise for my part in the family blow up (I have a short fuse and tend to lash out when overwhelmed/unable to communicate important things…I know this is not a good way to deal with my problems, but it’s a perennial challenge) I do not get an apology in return.
Nor, I think, will I ever, because I never do.
I don’t regret apologising for my part, but…man it would be nice to receive one as well as give one. It would be nice if “whoops, we didn’t realise we’d pushed your boundaries so hard” happened once
Next minute family will be wondering why you never make it to events.
Here is a story that might help you deal with lack of gratitude for apologies when people push you too far.
At my old workplace, the Accountant Manager always fiddled the figures so they didn’t have to pay us commission. One week, I wandered in to the office for some issue and one of the accounts girls asked “Salvo, you always have a smile, why are you always so happy?”. I replied “whenever something bothers me, I just ignore it and bottle up the anger until it boils over and I go Postal.”
She laughed, the Accountants Manager’s face went white and we got commission paid the next month.
Is this part of the on-going problem, in that they don't recognise or even realise that you have boundaries?
That’s the one.
I could have and should have dealt with it better. Blowing up was not helpful. I recognise this.
But I’m not a bad person because I want “no, I don’t want your help with this problem” to be respected…right?
So the psychiatrist that my psychologist referred me to last week confirmed what we all suspected, that I have ADHD. What I didn't expect was that it's served with a side of Asperger's (now known as 'high functioning autism' apparently). Did not see that one coming but it actually explains a lot.
I should start on the meds (Vyvanse) later this week. No idea what to expect, but sure, I'll take legal speed if it's on offer!
Shout out to all the shops that blast their AC with the front door wide open.
Incredibly wasteful but they sure are nice to walk past for those 2 seconds.
I need to vent a bit. Did my exercises just now to make myself feel better after coming home and copping criticism from both my kids and Mr P, all for different reasons. Made me feel really flat mood wise, but the exercises helped a bit. The Elder seems to think that the odd bits of swimming lessons he's allowed me to give him here and there over the past year or so are enough for him to say that he can swim, so it's ok for him to go to funfields with the school. He's always been scared of the water and hates those indoor pools with reeking chlorine, so he's always refused formal swimming lessons. Miniest is having trouble with her friends at school and can't find anyone else to play with, so she wants to leave the school at the end of the year 🤦🏻♀️ Mr Peeler wanted to grab some cash off me to go get a beer and I had to say no because I've only worked 2 days last week, so even though it's my pay day I have to keep everything tight financially for a bit. Everything is my fault somehow. Sooo tired after a hot day at work. I feel deflated and sort of defeated somehow. Might go have a cup of tea.
Hugs mate. I understand Mr P might have health problems but maybe you could talk to him about preparing some of your dinner (chop up veg eg) so that the load is not left up to you all time because the way I see it if Mr P can have a drink then Mr P can cut up a veg or too. I'm sorry if I'm out of line.
You're not out of line mate, your comment is perfectly reasonable. I might put it to him actually. I think I'm in that daylight saving jetlag/just had 5 days off/kids are arguing/short on cash/hot and tired from work funk. Lol, should write a song about it. Thanks for the hugs, very greatly appreciated 🙂
Pro hospital system tip: If you or your loved one is pushed to go into a "Transition Care Program" while recovering from surgery refuse.
It's so under resourced that I've just had to shell out what will probably be ~$2-2.5k on private patient transport because they have zero resources or budget to organise it on our behalf.
Ah the sound of kids bouncing a ball on their way to school and my little dog going berserk because of that.
Alrighty, picked up the car, don't have anything to hold the phone in place for navigation so it's AUDIO NAVIGATION time in a city with winding roads and sudden changes in dedicated turn lanes!
Did anyone else struggle to sleep last night? It felt very stuffy and warm. Maybe my place hadn't cooled down enough from the heat.
it is incredibly difficult to believe that it will rain mere hours after this clear sky sunset
Over the weekend I finally tackled a garden I've wanted fixed since I moved in. It looks good so far, but too early to tell till the seedlings take off. Still, job done!
Currently at friend's place feeding her cats for the last time because their mum is about to board her flight home from Brisbane. They're used to me now, one is my BFF and they're totally going to be sad when I don't come over tomorrow. Or they won't care. Cats be catting.
Bad sleep and daylight savings body clock adjustment hit me like a bus today. I’m already ready for bed.
Anyone else have a surplus of uncooked sausages and burgers from their grand final BBQ? I seriously over-estimated the appetite of our guests! I'd be fine with hotdogs and cheeseburgers for the rest of the week, but Mrs_Owl would be over meat-in-bread for dinner pretty quickly. I'm thinking I could smoosh the sausage meat into meatballs to have with pasta or rice. The burgers will just have to be eaten as intended.
I did some yoga today and it felt good after only walking for the past week because I'd hurt my shoulder and then re-hurt it because a spider decided to crawl along the couch while I was wrapped in my doona like a cocoon so instead of a quick get away I rolled off the couch onto the floor hurting myself.
