autismdragon

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

I get what you mean but autistically i have to clarify that for game purposes its because the other person needs to be able to verify they exist. Im guessing a mutual friend would be fine if you were doing this with a close friend irl.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I thought you werent going to bring up nontrinitarians for a second which would have floored me as someone who grew up in a nontrinitarian sect and always found the trinity extremly fucking strange.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

I find that very strange as an ex Christian Scientist, who believe we are all children of God and that Jesus was just a man but just like, the best man.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 7 months ago (1 children)

She's STILL the first trans person your average person thinks of when you mention trans people which is honestly horrifying.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (3 children)

OK I'm playing Earthbound for the first time with my girlfriend who really wanted to share it with me. Yo this game is actually fucking hard at the start. Im used to JRPGs that ease you into things like most FF games lmao. This is a bit of a shock to the system. But im actually finding it very engaging.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (4 children)

"Can I say something" posts when its a shitty or annoying person who is also hot - gauche, kinda weird

"Can I say something" posts when its an eldritch beast or something - fucking sick dude.

Noteably the former posts are always men and the later posts are nearly always women

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

Yes i stole it from a streamer challenge lol I just thought it was funny and also posted it because I wanted to talk about how much my special interest makes it easy for me.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago

I think its a completly reasonable rule to say it can't be a person you personally know lmao. Point is for it to be googleable. Specifically mentioning that streamers are a valid option is obviously geared towards the audience (which is literally an on stream challenge lol) but anyone you can verify exists as a public figure should count.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago

I think literally everyone would say that just "Madonna" would count which to me opens up the rest of it to count.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

For a long time I was of the mindset that its not an endorsement, because internally an endorsement of all of their policies was not why I was voting for Democrats. I had a similar mindset to this person, I wanted to elect Democrats because I felt like less people get hurt that way. Trolley problem shit. And I had a terrible time getting over that mindset.

I still have a bit of trouble getting over that mindset, and the sentence "a vote is an endorsement" still gives me a bit of a ??? reaction.

But I think it was the realization that they see it as an endorsement that did it for me though. Like it doesnt matter what I think my vote is about really.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)
 
 

Thread is full of gold: https://www.reddit.com/r/Asmongold/comments/1b6zbg9/just_when_sweet_baby_inc_couldnt_sink_any_lower/

Accusations include: gestapo, NAZIS, and of course someone brought up Anita Sarkessian.

 

OK. This is one of my most toxic qualities and has caused serious issues, specifically with other ND people, particularly femme ones. This is NOT something I should be ok with and something I need to work on.

But I do want to talk about WHY it happens.

There are two main reasons why when someone presents me with a boundary, I might try to "argue" or "negotiate" the boundary.

  1. The boundary doesnt make logical sense to me, so I feel that if I merely explain why it doesnt make sense to me I can argue them out of it. The fact that its a deep discomfort that doesnt have to make sense does not occure to me in the moment.
  2. A lot of the time its not even because I'm not willing to respect the boundary, its because I want to fully understand their reasoning, so I"m trying to draw that reasoning out more through discussion. Which comes off as "arguing".

Its also worth noting as Ive said before that boundary drawing has to be very clear with me for me to get it usually. White lies and subtle hints and stuff is completely unhelpful to me.

Ive also been in the position of thinking that the misunderstanding behind a boundary was "cleared up" and therefor thinking its ok to resume the behavior, without actually being given the go ahead to do so. And the person now feels uncomfortable drawing lines with me again because I argued last time (which is a manifestation of THEIR ND), and it just spirals.

The problematic effect this has is that it discourages the person from drawing boundaries with me again. This has led to nasty situations for me multiple times.

 

Everything I do. Every fucking second of my life. Is trying to feed the massive fucking black hole of RSD in me. Everything is begging for positive feedback. EVerything is people pleasing, but in ways that actually just put people off.

Noone loves me like I love them. Noone. Not one person. Im always the initiater. I send people memes, they dont send me shit. And oh ACTUALLY the WHOLE TIME I was actually ANNOYING THEM by sending them stuff.

It leads me into such awful, desperate, sometimes even fucking abusive behaviors. Manipulative. BEGGING for feedback. From everyone. All the fucking time. Taking advantage of nice patient people until I wear them out. I ping people too much. Sometimes I ping them again if they ignore the first one. I don't take ignoring a message for a no. I always am like "maybe they missed it or maybe they were too busy at the time and forgot" and sometimes that IS the case so it gets confusing.

People leave me constantly. Not always because of this but I've had like, five noteable peopel leave me in the last couple years. I have no irl friends left. Sometimes because of me neglecting those friendships and distance. But also my ONE really close irl friend left me because of a stupid misunderstanding. And I officially confirmed that Ive lost someone else today, this time over EXACTLY what i'm talking about.

I'm fucking exausted y'all. And I dont know what to do. There's no fucking medication for RSD. Coping mechanisms dont work. I cant fucking deal with this anymore. I'm fucking tired.

 

I'm not personally. If an NT person who's into comics says its a special interest Id be like "k". But im interested in takes here.

 
 
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