I think a lot of ND people are basically trained, whether it's ABA or bullying or whatever, to not have boundaries. So sometimes when others have boundaries it can be weird or even upsetting to us, because we're literally not allowed to have any. We're constantly people pleasing and fawning and masking etc. So when someone is like "Stop" it's like record scratch what? Wtf you're allowed to just say that and make things stop? Since when? I could never do that!
And if it's not a trauma reaction like the above, sometimes it's just a misunderstanding of tone, where you're seen as "arguing" when you're just like, talking and trying to understand them. Talking through text is the wooorst for this. I am constantly seeing arguments on my social media feeds that sprang out of nowhere when somebody just decided to put in their 2 cents and somebody else took it personal. Nobody understands the other and next thing you know they've blocked each other over nothing.
Sometimes people are very private, like my boyfriend for example. I might say something totally innocent in passing about him or about us, that I thought was like something cute or silly, and then he'll get very upset and basically act like I just told the whole world his nastiest sexual kink or something. Then I get angry because it's like the trauma thing, I have literally no boundaries and now suddenly it's record scratch stop. What? So yeah lol.