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Personally 2024 was ok for me even though I was laid off and unemployed for 6 months. Ok maybe it's a little shitty.

If we're in the darkest timeline, what was the last point where it felt there was so much hope and joy in the world?

Some options commonly put out.

  • The day Pokémon Go released July 2016. So prepandemic and we went outside and and a girl told me where to find Weedles. Yep I'm in a videogame

  • The day before 9/11 or when Harambe got killed

  • When Endgame released, culmination of 10 years of marvel moments into a single movie, people cheering in the cinema. Still pre pandemic, maybe there's a trend here

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 58 minutes ago

November 6, 2000

Everything has been downhill since then.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 52 minutes ago

The day before ChatGPT was released

2022-11-29

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 hours ago

I had a pretty good one yesterday

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

When I got my first actual Job shortly after my 27th bday EDIT: 2022 December. And was convinced I would turn the company around with my hard work.

Well, I sure left an impression, but it broke me, as I realized now that I had a job, how much I lost before I got there, and that money won't fix that. I started getting worse at my job as a result.

The poor mental health also lead to some poor choice of words on Reddit that got me several suicide care bot messages and a permanent suspension.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I'm not talking about substances, but things just don't give the same highs as they used to.

Getting a new Nintendo game as a kid and you're giddy all the way home, reading the back of the box.

Last time I bought a game I had been looking forward to for years it was lying in a drawer for a month before I even installed it.

I had my first kid this year, and it's probably the best thing to have happened to me in the last few years. But I don't think the joy I felt compares to that new NES game as a kid. I wish I still would get that kind of highs.

I'm pretty sure the last good day was sometime in 1996.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

as a child we experience everything for the first time. this grows neural paths and releases dopamine. colors are more vibrant, food tastes better.

as we age our brains get used to the dopamine and we look for ways to increase its production. sex, drugs, illicit activities, etc.

you will never recapture the way you felt watching the dinosaurs in JP inside a theater in 1995. you will never stare at a color in bewilderment of its vibrancy again.

find new experiences that could blast your brain with dopamine instead.

buy a hooker. smoke crack once. gamble $10k at one sitting.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

It's also just been a tough period to grow up. Depends on region but housing, did and cost of living in many have been significantly harder than in the past.

Every year is harder to get by than the last, despite unprecedented advances in science and tech.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 hours ago (5 children)

My last good day is always and forever today. My (or your) circumstances should never impair my (or your) ability to be happy 😁 it sounds weird, but you are allowed (it is your right) to feel happy even as your life is crumbling around you. And if you can't find that feeling, that's alright too.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

See this way of thinking has actually landed me in a pretty bad place with my mental health.

"I'm in charge of my own emotions" is not something an autistic person with rigid lines of thinking should internalise, but I did.

As a result I never gave myself permission to feel negative emotions, because who wants to feel negative about anything if they don't have to?

It seemed so smart and healthy, just be happy, that's what everyone always says about the easy fix to mental health. It was easy too, regardless what was happening around me, if I pictured myself feeling happy, I'd feel happy.

I'm in my 30s and regularly mistake sensations with other sensations (am I tired or do I need to pee? They both cause a headache) and also I think all my negative emotions are skipping my brain entirely and coming out my arse in the form of IBS.

I can't picture myself feeling sad to experience sad because I .....don't remember what sad feels like.

I remember what vomiting feels like, because that's how my body has reacted to "sad" recently.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

While this is true, I would also add that it's ok and valid to be sad and unhappy. There is no obligation to put on a smile. You can be happy and not smiling, or you can be unhappy and not smiling, just be you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I feel like it's not my right to be happy unless I can impress in some way, like through work or academia. Everyone else has surpassed me and I can't impress anywhere, so I just feel like I don't deserve happiness anymore.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago

Don't live your daily grind according to the highlight reel you see about other people.

We often don't see the full lives of even our closest family members - thoughts, hopes, desires, dreams, frustrations, disappointments - and our window into our friends' and acquaintances' and strangers' lives is even smaller. It's like we only see the few triumphs they post on FB/insta and that's all we know of them.

You can't compare yourself to that. You know your full day of struggles, the long grind between wins, and you only see the big wins of your friends. You know your own dark thoughts and barely-held heated retorts but you never know either of those from anyone around you.

You will always feel inadequate if you're comparing your everyday to the best days of your contacts. It's okay to stop that; and, if you can, we often discover we don't suck so much.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago

This is surprisingly uplifting, thank you for posting this

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago

But I would suggest start looking in weird places

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I would say early 2010 or maybe 2009. live 3 miles from work and regularly walked it. In the morning my wife would walk almost halfway to a park and we had our dog. She would turn around and go back while I would continue on. I could take a bus in incliment weather only having to be in it for a few blocks. Sometimes I would bike up to the lakefront which was nice and scenic and stretched it to 7 miles which was nicer for a bike ride. My wife and I had macbook pros which large powerful laptops with tons of ports and osx was great and applecare was still stellar (it actually went down somewhere around this time). I worked in a research lab and what was accomplished seemed magical.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

That sounds awesome.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago

Wait are you saying the day Harambe got killed was a good day? Or the day before he was killed?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 13 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Yesterday. I can't remember the last bad day I've had. 2024 has been one of the best years of my life

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago

Yeah I've had rough days and great days, but even the bad ones have been more inconvenient than anything else. The good has more than compensated for the inconvenience

[–] [email protected] 4 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

Almost same. I've had many shitty years and days, but around this time last year I said something along these lines, and it holds true now as well: This year has been great. And next year is on track to be fuckin awesome.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That fateful day in July 2009. Parents were hit by a guy who was fucked up by a shopping list of drugs. Mom dead, the family that was quickly fell apart. She was no longer around to help hide my father's alcoholism. Not even 6 months after her death, a foul harpy of a female human latched on to him and only encouraged the worst parts of him while slowly doing everything she could to remove or erase his family.

Wrong parent died that day.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 17 hours ago

Real sorry bro

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think you mean the day before that.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No, the day of. My mom had made a big deal about taking pictures and making a big family brunch before she left. I was alone at my grandfather's house and getting to watch TV while playing a MMO simultaneously. Amazing day, until the phone call that upended everything.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 23 hours ago

I'm sorry this happened to you.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

July 4, 2012. The day the Higgs Boson was discovered. Everything since has done nothing but get stranger and stranger. I won't even say it's all just gone to shit. It's just to me, everything since has been... increasingly unreal.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

I like to joke that the world actually did end in 2012 and now we’re in a weird purgatory type thing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

I prefer the flavor that the LHC opened a crack in the multiverse and weird timelines are seeping through

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 hours ago

Ah shit, you figured it out. Ok everyone, the jig is up, you can stop pretending to be real now

[–] [email protected] 1 points 17 hours ago

The best is yet to come

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Not sure of exact date, but it was around 2005-2006 and I had saved up enough money to get me a lego N1 starfighter kit from star wars. Last time remember feeling genuine joy

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 day ago

My job moved me from Oklahoma to California. Took 3.5 months to sell my house but I was in Cali that whole time while my wife and daughter stayed behind waiting for the sale. The day I finally came back to get them after the sale was that day. I had never been away from them more than 2 days in 15 years. That 3.5 months alone was so fucking hard and depressing. Never been so happy to see them.

That day. For me.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

May 5, 2019. The last chance to avoid a series of mistakes that ruined my life. Yes I put way too much thought into this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

What did you do?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

I don't know about good, but today was an unusual day for me.

With a blizzard setting in, I figured my best chance to get to work was on the bus. So I was walking up to where I could catch it passing various houses with Christmas lights and decorations, only to stop dead in my tracks at one particular house.

It's sole decoation was an 8-ft tall Krampus on the front lawn. It had a goat head with horns and demonic eyes and sharp claws holding a gnarled staff on one side and chains on the other. It's dark burgundy cloak had a dusting of snow on its shoulders to complete the look.

Then I was on the bus trying to digest what I had seen when who should walk on but Polar Man! He's a local superhero with a bushy beard and a mask. He helps people in distress shovel out their driveways. At one point as the bus was passing through a residential area, he got up and yelled "Driver! Stop the bus!" and leapt out dramatically to cheering passengers.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

For me, Tuesday, 2/25/14 was a pretty good day. Normal day at the bike shop, receiving some preseason stuff, arguing with the boss over some BMC bikes I didn't think were a good deal for the shops. Ate my usual dry salad at the local joint with the pretty girl I enjoyed talking with a little bit each day. I had just started a cut phase for my push to get under 190 lbs to get much more competitive for crit racing in 2014. I wanted to actually win a race or two. That was going to be my big finish for 5 years going from 350 lbs in 2009 to 7% body fat. I felt like that was a good tradeoff for having worked for peanuts in a bike shop. Then I would get a real job at the end of summer when I turned 30... Instead I got a broken neck and back 2/26/14 from a terrible driver.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That first day when I figured out masturbation was tops, all down hill from there

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

Ah. Yes.

June 26th 1996 while watching CBS 60b minutes. What a day that was.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

I don't even remember.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

The last day I hugged my best friend in elementary school, because it was the final time two male friends could openly love one another without being questioned or ostracized... sigh.

EDIT: The last time in the region I grew up in, which seems to be more on the conservative hellhole side of things

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Where do you live where you can’t hug your best friend?

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago

I live in Hicksville Indiana and I openly hug my guy friend and tell him I love him. I have never had an inkling that anyone thought we were gay... Nor have I ever cared.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Rural Ohio... I don't recommend it

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

May 11th, 1995

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

For the most part life has just been getting better the older I get so I'd say that day is still ahead of me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

... i should probably talk to a therapist, huh?

Maybe middle school? Or when i broke out of food service into IT like, 3/4 months before Covid hit?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

The day before they started recording what day it was