DillyDaily

I still feel like the nouns are in the wrong place when I read this.

I'm reading it as "New York cows new York cows bully bully New York cows"

When I want it to read "New York cows bully new York cows" which would be "Buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo" which isn't enough buffalo.

I have to inset my own "that" to be able to get my head around "Buffalo buffalo (that) Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo"

Both the battery and the charger are old and broken in my brain.

If it's too hot out the battery drains faster, if I'm playing music the battery drains faster. If I'm having to swap between conversations, bye bye battery.

Sometimes the charger works fine but sometimes it just doesn't charge no matter what I try, and the battery stays low even if I leave it plugged in alone.

Some days there's a process that's absolutely and inexplicably guzzling power, but the next day that same process barely takes up any processing power.

Some days it just doesn't turn on at all, and then on rare occasions I can't get the damn thing to turn off, it's just blasting notifications and I'm trying to sleep.

Related: personally I think "old phone battery" is a much better metaphor than the "chronically ill spoons" metaphor that is commonly used to explain the impact of chronic illness.

Yes and no, applying for accommodations is as fun and easy as pulling out your own teeth with a rubber chicken.

It took months to get the paperwork organised and the conversations started around accommodations I needed for my disability, I realised halfway through I had to simplify what I was asking for and just deal with some less than accessible issues because the process of applying for disability accommodations was not accessible and I was getting rejected for simple requests like "can I reserve a seat in the front row because I can't get up the stairs, and I can't get there early because I need to take the service elevator to get to the lecture hall, so I'm always waiting on the security guard"

My teachers knew I had a physical disability and had mobility accommodations, some of them knew that the condition I had also caused a degree of sensory disability, but I had nothing formal on the paperwork about my hearing and vision loss because I was able to self manage with my existing tools.

I didn't need my teachers to do anything differently so I didn't see the point in delaying my education and putting myself through the bureaucratic stress of applying for visual accommodations when I didn't need them to be provided to me from the university itself.

Obviously if I'd gotten a result of "you cheated" I'd immediately get that paperwork in to prove I didn't cheat, my voice over reader just gave me the ChatGPT instructions and I didn't realise it wasn't part of the assignment.... But that could take 3-4 months to finalise the accommodation process once I become aware that there is a genuine need to have that paperwork in place.

I'm forced to because I make the most ridiculous spelling mistakes that completely change the comment.

"With" autocorrects to "without".

"is" autocorrects to "isn't"

Finally worked out why though - my right eye is impaired and I type exclusively with my right thumb (on mobile) so I'm not actually pressing the keys I think I am and I'm often hitting the "predict word" button instead of the space bar.

Looking forward to getting tactile keys on phones again!

My job somehow shifted from teaching IT to seniors to teaching SOSE to migrants

It has simultaneously been the most challenging, and most rewarding change.

I'm forced to edit myself down from my preferred 5000 word lecture to about 150 words with clip art.

It's slowly helping me become less of a rambler.

Except for the "post restraint collapse", I get home and I can't hold it in anymore, cue the explosive verbal diarrhoea.

At work, fewer words are better.

But in my own personal life I feel that the fewer words I employ to convey the way I feel the less nuance I'm embedding in my message and what is communication if not the conveyance of the core message, failing to express myself clearly would be counter-productive so surely explaining in more detail is beneficial, hello? Are you still listening? Why have your eyes glazed over.

Gay lead; when being a stone top just isn't hard enough.

If she's using ChatGPT to try and understand behavioural psychology, she's not smarter than him.

It would be one thing to go off and do some reading and come back with some resources and functional strategies for OP to avoid argumentative fallacies and navigate civil discourse, but she's using a biased generative AI to armchair diagnose her boyfriend.

"you don't have the emotional bandwidth to understand what I'm saying" okay, so what if he doesn't, now what lady? Does ChatGPT have a self development program so your boyfriend can develop the emotional intelligence required to converse with you?

Picking apart an argument is not how you resolve an argument, ChatGPT is picking it apart because she's prompting it to do that, where as a therapist or couple's counsellor would actually help address the root issues of the argument.

Call her doctor

I should have been more specific. Find a time when she's not doing anything urgent, tell her it's time to call the doctor, pick up her phone and dial the doctor, put them on speaker and put the phone down next to you while you body double your partner as they gone through the motions of locking in the appointment.

While on the phone your partner can also give third party authorisation. It's the first thing I do when I meet a new provider, I give third party authorisation to my partner and mother so they can make appointments on my behalf (they can't get results for me, but they can schedule things for me)

Every time I do a Bunnings BBQ for the community centre, it's women run, we get the onions on ASAP because they need time to cook, and we'll have people buying a plain onion sandwich in addition to a snag, because caramelised onions are so good!

Every time I volunteer to help my partners football club run a sausage sizzle, I'm saying "put the onions on, they take longer" and I'm told by the guys "I'm a man, I know how to BBQ, go away little girl, go hold the sign and be pretty"

Then everyone buying a snag is complaining about crunchy raw onions, and the guys are saying "why did we buy so many onions?" (because you were supposed to cook them down so they shrink!)

These same men will unironically say "women belong in the kitchen" then won't take cooking advice from a woman.

(also, the footy guys always giving me flak for deglazing the BBQ plate with water to help the onions cook down faster. They'll just keep adding oil, once saw a Rotary Club use 1L of canola oil to half cook 5kg of onions, when we've never needed more than 200ml to fully cook onions, because onions need water to cook down!)

No idea, he lives on the other side of the state and I only see him 3 times a year for his birthday, father's day and Christmas. My brother used to live with him but he spends most of his time with mum now.

I'm certain my dad is getting this rhetoric from social media because he's a lonely and isolated man in his late 60s with no friends outside of his male dominated blue collar job.

But it's not my job to reform him, I don't have the skill set or energy.

Call her doctor, make an appointment, save it in her calendar, remind her in the lead up, drive her there, get the referral. Walk her to the post box to send it off, sit next to her to phone the intake office to confirm they got the referral, set appointments on her phone for every 6 months to sit with her and call to check the cancellation list until you get an appointment. Drive her to that appointment.

If she has ADHD, the steps involved in getting a diagnosis are bigger than Mt Everest, she will need a neurotypical Sherpa.

He's also not a racist!