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The transphobia stops now (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

This community is housed on an instance run by two trans women, focused on the needs of the queer and gender diverse community.

We allowed 196 here because we were promised the community is queer and trans inclusive.

If you're here it's because you're aggressively supportive of trans folk. Not middle of the ground, not "just asking questions".

If your response to that is, "yes, but..." then this isn't the instance for you, and by extension, this isn't the community for you.

tl;dr - Unambiguous support and inclusion, or fuck off somewhere else.

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Edit - I changed the phrase "aggressive support to "unambiguous support", as there was some confusion over the intent behind my previous phrasing.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (3 children)

It's good to be weird. Weird means not normal, not mainstream. I find not weird to be boring. So bring on the weird!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

So with you on this, as a weird person I would not change anything even tho it sometimes presents challenges. Found a weird bf too and I'm in heaven

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Right on. It's good to be in the minority, to be different!! It would be boring and if everyone were the same.

I have ADHD so there are always more people not like me than like me (unless I'm in a ADHD club or something lol). I could say I'm weird. But also I'm a different kind of normal. Who decides what is or isn't normal anyway right?

Anyway... The problem isn't being unlike some majority group. The problem is the fear and hatred and ignorance.

When it comes down to it we are all human.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I had a discussion about weird vs. norm with a friend the other day. We decided neither type of person is good or bad inherently because they are weird or normal. Different things comfort them. A weird person feels safe surrounded by people that "get them" who are weird like they are. Their personal identity is often centered on the fact that they are not "normal". They take pride in it.

But the predictability of a more structured "normal" life is just as comforting to those who are "normal". There are no rights or wrongs here, only the need for each type to recognize and respect the other. I don't really like derogatory terms like "normie", which I have more than one friend who uses (I don't say anything to them about it, I can personally not like it without making demands on my friends to feel the same as I do). It's like when I was in school, there were mostly right handed people, but every now and then there was a "leftie" or "southpaw". They were different. I don't recall ever seeing anyone bullied over being left-handed, but we all knew who they were. Humans and many animals focus on differences. It's probably a residual primal thing. Wolves will kill deformed or sickly pups, for example.

Normal is boring to some, and weird is chaotic to some. Both are acceptable stances and shouldn't be seen as adversarial by either group.