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No, I'm not a happiness addict. Happiness is not the goal - it's the failure state. Happiness means I've become an abusive monster, like you.
I know. They've done the same to and for other people. Bigotry affects millions of people - I'm simply an equal one of those affected.
I'm simply trying to convince people that I"m an equal one of them, but their bigotry makes them refuse to accept that - just as it does to the equality of many others. The only difference between me and other victims of bigotry is that I don't belong to a group.
That's a wild take man. Like what are you talking about? Can you tell me exactly what I've done to be an "abusive monster"? Could you elaborate on how happiness is only the result of being abusive?
Happiness is like a drug; it is addictive, and "taking" it loses effectiveness over time. This means every person needs to do more extreme things to achieve the same happiness. Eventually, they need to start abusive others in order to achieve the same "high".
You may not be actively abusive yet, but you have to quit cold-turkey and run directly away from happiness in order to avoid the grip it will gain on you.
I'm going to disagree with you. I have found it takes less to make me happy as I get older. Moreover, my happiest moments are those where others are happy. I take no pleasure in harming others and I don't believe that's a unique perspective.
I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.
By definition that's not possible. Unless you're accusing me of being incompetent; correct exercise of coping mechanisms cannot make life more difficult because they're engineered as a ratchet.
It is common to develop a drug or alcohol addiction as part of a coping mechanism. That can absolutely make your life more difficult. Coping mechanisms can make it more difficult to make changes that will better your life.
The path of least resistance isn't always the easiest path.
I promise you that this is not the "path of least resistance". In fact, it may be the path of most resistance - that's evidence it's the right one.
Which is it? Your choices don't make life more difficult or they do and that's why they are good?
People's reactions to my choices make my life more difficult, and that's why they are good. They can choose not to make my life more difficult; they instead make the immoral choice. My choice is moral and therefore the only one I can really make.
It's interesting that any pushback you is evidence you are correct. It's also interesting that you take no responsibility for any difficulties you might experience, it's always the result of someone else's choice.
I take responsibility for things I have actually done wrong. The problem here is that people conflate their out-of-control feelings with factual incorrectness. I can't be responsible for your feelings, especially when you go out of your way to feel things in bad faith to blame me for those feelings. It's your responsibility to not allow your feelings to affect your judgment in any way.
You don't actually care about me being truly responsible - you just want me to be stupid enough and submissive enough to accept responsibility for things I have no duty to be responsible for. You want me to be responsible for your feelings that you have in bad faith, so you can justify "punishing" me arbitrarily.
It's shocking how far you will go to avoid the idea that people aren't out to get you.
You're the one avoiding facts.
Right now, a third of the U.S. - the white supremacy movement - has openly announced their desire to kill off at least another third of the U.S.
But, for some reason, those same people will refuse to kill me - despite some of them being the exact same people who beat me up in grade school?
They're murderers, dipshit - they don't make exception for anyone - not even their own.
And the only reason the other two thirds aren't actively killing me is because they know the other third will - and they plan to help them kill me.
Also, "out to get" is your bullshit framing base on your laziness. It's actually opportunism - but that still leaves me dead, and doesn't excuse their behavior - or yours.
Finally, you still haven't addressed the fact that you positively, provably manipulate your own emotions in bad faith to create a justification for abusing me.
Exactly how have I abused you? You keep claiming that, but all I've done is talk and notice that you have some views that aren't very healthy or stand up to scrutiny.
You believe that 1 in 3 people would support a racial genocide? Do you have any support for that?
Following that up you claim that everyone wants to kill you. Doesn't that seem a little paranoid to you?
No one here is attacking you or threatening your life. No one. People aren't insulting you, even though you are insulting everyone. Your world view is being questioned because it doesn't seem healthy or rational. People aren't saying "I think you are wrong" because they hate you and want you to "submit" but because you appear to be very unwell.
I know that my life improved when I changed my outlook, and I think you are clinging to unhealthy views because it makes it easier than trying to better yourself.
What you done is act in bad faith - your "talk" is spreading lies, you don't gave a shit about my health or about honesty.
Have you seen the fucking news over here lately? The entire Republican Party is clamoring for secession and genocide.
That doesn't matter. And to be precise, what they want first is to dominate me, to make me their slave. They only want to kill me because I openly refuse to obey them - which makes them look weak.
Yes they are - they are a threat simply be knowing I exist. People refuse to control their own behavior; people's behavior is only controlled externally. Bullies don't stop their own bulling behavior - they have to be punished to stop them, but bullies stopped being punished long before I was born. So now everyone is a bully, and everyone is out of control.
Every contradiction is an insult. Who they fuck are they to contradict me when I'm the only one here who ever bothered to do the hard work of learning anything?
According to the unhealthy and irrational human species. Uh huh.
Again, judgment from the same bullies who called me names my entire childhood. Can't you see why their judgement would be held in doubt?
Quit pretending people act in good faith. They are liars down to the bone, and I'm sick and tired of you defending them.
First, I have spent my entire life bettering myself. Second, bettering myself is far easier that defending myself against assault. Third, you don't actually want me to truly better myself - the "bettering myself" you want is for me to be more gullible, more submissive. I'll never believe anyone's bullshit, and you'll never get me on my knees. I will resist you until I die.
Finally, your life only got "better" because you chose to be delusional - which then exported the cost of living onto other people. Other people now suffer because you chose to believe lies.
I hope one day you get the help that you need.