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I cringe every time I hear another guy refer to women like this

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (2 children)

with "this person" or "a BMW driver" as a maybe-neutral-but-also-likely-male coded qualifier.

If this is "likely male coded" how exactly do you suggest referring to other drivers in a neutral way?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

How about other driver?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I try to use "driver" or "person".

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

How are "this person" and "a BMW driver" likely male coded while "person" and "driver" are fine? It sounds to me like you're just assuming negative intent in others, while your own use of the same words is fine because you know what you mean.