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Before I read the comments I'm sure it's either jokes/memes or "this is unhealthy"
Nah fuck that. Some people deserve lifelong hate.
You don't sit there seething day after day, dwelling on it constantly.
But whenever they come up, perfectly reasonable to say "fuck that noise, piss off" and be done with it.
"forgive and forget" can eat shit and die.
It takes emotional bandwidth to carry hate, whether you think about it often or not.
It's not a question of right or wrong, or whether it's deserving or not. You're paying for it as long as you're carrying it, so I would ask if it's still worth it.
For some people, yes. Most people aren't worth it, but many are.
Have you ever bought something that seemed worth it at first, but found out later it was a bad deal?
Hate typically affects you far more than who you hold it for.
True. That's why hate should be relinquished unless you have actual plans to use it. Even then, it needs to be toned down to keep a level head.
It is for everyone. It's how we work. Outside of maybe certain types of mental illness or disability. It's also very easy to feel like we can carry it without consequence, especially for younger people (I'd say mid-30's and below)
"I can hate someone without it affecting other parts of my life" is just an objectively false statement. I know there is virtually nothing a Lemmy rando can do to change your mind, but one day you'll feel the weight, I promise.
No one is special enough to be able to carry such a core human emotion without consequence.
I'm not trying to argue, but unless there is something about how you process emotions that places you in a vanishingly small percentile, you're gonna pay for it.