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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

Wow, that's not okay. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I've had similar experiences myself with egging but it probably wasn't anywhere near as bad as what you went through. I hope you're doing better and are with better people who respect you for who you are.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

No harm in exploring gender presentation, sometimes it can lead you to discover something about yourself, and even if it doesn't that's okay. There can be benefit in doing it even if you don't get anything major out of it.

Honestly I think it's best not to make to much out of this kind of thing, it can mean something but it can also be part of exploring.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

Absolutely, it can be quite damaging.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

It can cause blood clots which can kinda damage any organ they happen in, heart attacks and strokes are very likely. It can also cause liver toxicity, gall stones, and even kidney damage as well as a multitude of other awful things. It also can cause the exact opposite effects that would be desired from Estrogen at high dosage, more estrogen ≠ more changes and more faster please.

In short, it's a bad idea. Can cause a lot of serious damage, and even negate the purpose for doing it in the first place. Stick to the acceptable dose if you want it or need it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

It can be like that, I feel kind of like that since I do have some small connection to being male but also a strong lack of connection to gender at all.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Bottom one is me when I realized I'm Isogender and that people will strugle to understand and recognize me. even in queer spaces 😔

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Wow you're a transphobe too? fuck you dude.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Cracking someone else's egg isn't great, it violates the egg prime directive. People need to discover themselves on their own. I get that they say some people are "in-denial" and aren't willing to come out but trying to force them will just make them resist harder, and make them want to do it less.
I feel like this meme must be satire in that regard, as these methods rarely work out as well as portrayed here.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Hello I'd love to help out the community, I am currently a mod on [email protected] and I also have experience modding back on Reddit as well.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

When I was young I was very rebellious and did not follow gender stereotypes, I had long hair and I dyed the ends bright red. People (my teachers) didn't really like that and they often would tell me I must be a girl because boys don't do stuff like that. I find that kind of funny because I did a lot of terrible things that according to their sexist logic girls wouldn't do (like severing my chromebook from their enterprise enrollment (twice with two separate Chromebooks) so I could do what I wanted). Few years later I was diagnosed with an androgen deficiency and I would need to take testosterone or wouldn't continue developing properly. I didn't actually take it both because it made me feel sick and also because all the shit my teachers were saying made younger me think I was going on E and it would make me a girl. So I just didn't take it, and still haven't, that's future Riley's problem.

Years later in 2021 towards the end I learned about Agender and Isogender and those really resonated with me so I started using those but I also never really stopped identifying with male and still very often use he/him pronouns.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 6 months ago

Yeah seems like people always forget about transmascs for some reason.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago

Defederation evading?

That's not a thing, people are allowed to be on multiple instances, if they weren't that would go against the free and open nature of the Fediverse don't you think?

 

So now it's a Redirect to [email protected]

 

One thing I get a lot as an Isogender is people who are confused about what it means or who think it's just trans. I'm going to break down what it means, why we are not trans, or cis for that matter, while also addressing some of the arguments brought up about us (these are arguments I and others have recieved on this).


What does it mean to be Isogender?

Isogender is a gender modality which falls outside of the cis and trans umbrellas, it exists as its own thing. Simply put Isogender is neither cis nor trans. You might be wondering how does that work exactly if cis=AGAB and trans≠AGAB? Well it's slightly different for different people but one explanation I've heard is that AGAB is Irrelevant to people who identify as Isogender.

Personally the way that cis and trans are worded or described these days isn't great in my opinion as it seems to try and remove other options outside of the two. It enforces a binary, under those strict definitions one can either be Cis or Trans with no clear path In-between or neither.


"Isogender is 'technically' trans then because it isn't cis, you're just choosing not to Identify as trans"

Nope it isn't, it is neither cis nor trans, the reason is that we identify as neither. It's based on the idea that the way we identify is valid and determines who we are. Arguing technicality when it comes to a person's identity is very invalidating, as if to say they are wrong about how they identify without directly saying they're wrong.


"Isogender doesn't exist, you're in denial about being trans bc Internalized Transphobia"

Umm... No. If it didn't exist it wouldn't have been coined and it wouldn't have multiple Wiki pages about it. People are free to identify how they feel is comfortable, an trying to argue that their identity or reasons for not identifying as trans aren't valid and that they have transphobia isn't respecting their identity, it's attempting to change their mind by telling them that it is bad or wrong to not identify as trans, or to not feel comfortable identifying as trans.


"It's important to identify as trans even if you are Non-Binary to show that transgender is more than transsexual"

Yeah... No, it's important to identify the way that feels comfortable and correct for you. Gender identities are for the person identifying, not anyone else. You should not, nor should you be expected to identify a particular way for someone else. If it feels right to identify as trans then you can, if it doesn't than you don't have to, that's like the whole point of Isogender and other gender modalities, having options outside of the dichotomy.


"Anyone without Gender Dysphoria is just Cis and wants attention"

Transmedicalism will not be tolerated here under Rule 3 and Rule 4, there is no debate here, transmedicalism is a very hostile and harmful form of gatekeeping. People's identities are Valid and should be respected, transmedicalism fights against that, so it should be treated as the form of Bigotry that it is.


Conclusion

While this may not have covered all basis I did get to touch on what Isogender is, as well as some of the misconceptions and also some of the extremely harmful arguments related to it, and hopefully addressed them so we will not see them posted here out of Ignorance.

I will leave this post up in case people would like to add anything else, or engage in constructive criticism but if there is any significant hostility or attacks the comments may be locked.

 

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION] drowning kid + skeleton Meme

In the top panel a mother and her kids are together in a swimming pool. The mother with text "egg_irl" is holding up her daughter with the text "transfems" over her. Meanwhile her son is drowning while she doesn't notice him with the text "transmascs" over him.

In the bottom Panel a skeleton is chained to a chair at the bottom of the ocean with the text "NonBinary/Genderqueer", "Genderfluid", and "Agender" over it. Each label is colored in the colors of their own Flags respectively.

[END OF IMAGE DESCRIPTION]

context: Back on the original egg_irl subreddit it was common for there to be a disproportionate amount of transfem memes versus the others and a lot of them forgot to flair as [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem] when needed and also a few were a bit targeting towards transmascs and masculine enbies i.e.

spoiler"get rid of your toxic, masculine mannerisms"
or
spoiler"transmascs have cute feminine faces"
. Some people even started saying Egg_irl is specifically a women's space and not a trans space in general.

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