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submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

So I dealt with a nasty person a few days ago and one of the things this person did was calling people pick-mes while accusing them of being transphobic. The problem is I have no idea what this word or phrase means. I know it isn't good but I don't really understand how it relates to someone other than somehow being connected or associated with transphobia, and also likely being insulting.

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submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Decided to set up this community as well as [email protected] because I know that in the future transmedicalists might want to try setting up here. Transmedicalism is one of the most toxic forms of gatekeeping plaguing the trans community, they actively invalidate people based on "not being trans enough", they constantly attack NonBinary and Xenogender people claiming that they're "just cis and want to feel special". I've also seen them attack GNC people claiming that they're "appropriating the trans experience".

Obviously these people are very toxic and have no place in Blahaj.zone and probably the trans and queer community as a whole. That's why I have made these comms as placeholders to ensure that they can't just set up a space here.

I would be open to turning either of these communities into support communities for people to discuss being hurt by or the damaging aspects of transmedicalism. Please let me know if that seems like a good idea, if not I'm sure someone can always make a dedicated community for that purpose (I'll put a redirect there in the description if that happens).

Disclaimer, if anyone fights or posts toxic shit in the comments, (especially transmedicalists) I will just lock the thread and move on, be respectful.

[-] [email protected] 30 points 7 months ago

Egg Prime Directive, you NEVER try to crack someone else's egg. It is imperative to respect people's gender identities always, that means listening to them, even if they don't conform to traditional gender norms. If a person is taking HRT to look fem but says they're male, then they're male, it's valid. No one has the right to argue that he's semantically a trans woman, because gender identity is ultimately based on how one identifies, not ones actions, choices, or desires.

[-] [email protected] 40 points 7 months ago

This post is extremely disrespectful to transmascs and gender nonconforming individuals, and just in general gives really awful vibes.

First of all this assumes that a person must be transfem or a woman to want, have, or work to get these things. This is not correct. A person may desire any of these things while identifying as female, male, or even Get this, NonBinary, yeah wild isn't it. That's because presentation and gender identity are separate things altogether.

Which is also the reason why this phrase

-ability to wear adorable clothes

Is flat out wrong, because gender and presentation are not the same. In addition this take is extremely harmful and reinforces gender stereotypes. I know people are starting to think that's not a real thing and that only terfs say that, but reinforcing gender stereotypes is a real thing and it's really disrespectful both to trans and GNC people.

-ditch your angry, masculine mannerisms

This is both hurtful to transmasc people and is just in general extremely misandristic. You should be ashamed of yourself, this hating men thing is grossly reminiscent of TERF rhetoric.

-decimate your fapping addiction

Ignoring the fact that this assumes the viewer even has one in the first place (which many won't) this isn't even really true, because estrogen affects different people's sex drive differently, some may lose that urge, but for others it may be just as strong, some might be even stronger. I have no personal experience (and I don't plan on it) this is mostly gathered from things I've read online and the experiences my trans friends have shared with me, so take that how you will.

-improved mental state

This really depends, is E what this person wants? If so then yes it certainly would, but if they don't it would probably cause the opposite effect. It can lead to an improvement, but only if the person wants it and the affects that come with it, but if they don't want it, then it's not going to be a good experience for them.

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

I'm just wondering since some person on Mastodon said it, (almost certainly a troll due to their toxic behavior) and I was wondering what it actually means or if it's something that is just made up. I tried searching on Google and there weren't really any meaningful results, just people talking about and complaining about it.

So if anyone has any information on this it would be great if you shared it. Thanks

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Egg_irl (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Meme Text:

Reminder

Being an Egg doesn't mean you'll inevitably come out as trans - it means you're taking some time to figure yourself out, regardless of the result. Trans or cis, binary or nonbinary, gender conforming or not you're always welcome here!


My commentary:

I saw this meme a while back and really liked it. I thought after the extremely turbulent events recently it would be a good idea to post this as a reminder for us all to remember what's important, and to respect each other both before and after the questioning process, regardless of how people identify afterwards.

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nyanbinyary_irl (cdn.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/8128267

Text: "Visualizing in the mirror the man i want t obecome"

In the mirror is an Androgynous looking cat character wearing fem clothes

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egg_irl [NonBinary] (cdn.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Text: "Visualizing in the mirror the man i want t obecome"

In the mirror is an Androgynous looking cat character wearing fem clothes

[-] [email protected] 40 points 8 months ago

Not talking back or being snarky but if you feel that way you might seriously want to look into Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works, they have very bad track records of letting transphobes and bigots run wild, Lemmy.world is the worst, many of the people they've banned for bigotry have been unbanned or were only given temporary bans to begin with, often times they won't even action users who are engaging in transphobia, even if reported. It's really not great.

I used to believe Beehaw was a bit overly strict but honestly I can see they blocked these instances for good reason, especially Lemmy.world.

[-] [email protected] 37 points 8 months ago

Yeah I agree, this definately does seem like a knee jerk reaction which ultimately does more harm than good.

[-] [email protected] 49 points 8 months ago

I feel like the way they included stop portions on the masculine side they should've also included a stop portion on the feminine side because femboys are valid too, and aren't just "trans girls in-denial" like is often said about us.

[-] [email protected] 176 points 8 months ago

Okay that's fine then, you can just buy a block of cheese and grate it yourself. There are these things called cheese gradters which exist for that very purpose.

You can even, get this, use them to slice the cheese thinly using the slicing part of them.

I know wild right.

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submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
[-] [email protected] 29 points 9 months ago

I wasn't even able to find the revision, it seems the person who made the meme just used the editor to make the edit, then took a screenshot of the preview but didn't publish it.

[-] [email protected] 57 points 9 months ago

Terms of service were meant to be broken, they are a once-sided agreement that the other party never needs to uphold, there are no consequences for them if they don't. So I say the moment they try to screw you over give them a good punch in the face, there are some nasty ways to do that to online entities, some illegal, others just petty, some in grey areas (in real free countries none of them are illegal, because corporations aren't protected in places like that).

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submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

A community for SFW discussion about the femboy experience. Links:

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Trans Rights rule (discuss.tchncs.de)
submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
[-] [email protected] 103 points 9 months ago

I knew a hardcore Maga conservative once, this is very accurate to how they behaved, they really hate everyone, they just pretend to care about certain people so they can put down others.

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submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

So now it's a Redirect to [email protected]

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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

One thing I get a lot as an Isogender is people who are confused about what it means or who think it's just trans. I'm going to break down what it means, why we are not trans, or cis for that matter, while also addressing some of the arguments brought up about us (these are arguments I and others have recieved on this).


What does it mean to be Isogender?

Isogender is a gender modality which falls outside of the cis and trans umbrellas, it exists as its own thing. Simply put Isogender is neither cis nor trans. You might be wondering how does that work exactly if cis=AGAB and trans≠AGAB? Well it's slightly different for different people but one explanation I've heard is that AGAB is Irrelevant to people who identify as Isogender.

Personally the way that cis and trans are worded or described these days isn't great in my opinion as it seems to try and remove other options outside of the two. It enforces a binary, under those strict definitions one can either be Cis or Trans with no clear path In-between or neither.


"Isogender is 'technically' trans then because it isn't cis, you're just choosing not to Identify as trans"

Nope it isn't, it is neither cis nor trans, the reason is that we identify as neither. It's based on the idea that the way we identify is valid and determines who we are. Arguing technicality when it comes to a person's identity is very invalidating, as if to say they are wrong about how they identify without directly saying they're wrong.


"Isogender doesn't exist, you're in denial about being trans bc Internalized Transphobia"

Umm... No. If it didn't exist it wouldn't have been coined and it wouldn't have multiple Wiki pages about it. People are free to identify how they feel is comfortable, an trying to argue that their identity or reasons for not identifying as trans aren't valid and that they have transphobia isn't respecting their identity, it's attempting to change their mind by telling them that it is bad or wrong to not identify as trans, or to not feel comfortable identifying as trans.


"It's important to identify as trans even if you are Non-Binary to show that transgender is more than transsexual"

Yeah... No, it's important to identify the way that feels comfortable and correct for you. Gender identities are for the person identifying, not anyone else. You should not, nor should you be expected to identify a particular way for someone else. If it feels right to identify as trans then you can, if it doesn't than you don't have to, that's like the whole point of Isogender and other gender modalities, having options outside of the dichotomy.


"Anyone without Gender Dysphoria is just Cis and wants attention"

Transmedicalism will not be tolerated here under Rule 3 and Rule 4, there is no debate here, transmedicalism is a very hostile and harmful form of gatekeeping. People's identities are Valid and should be respected, transmedicalism fights against that, so it should be treated as the form of Bigotry that it is.


Conclusion

While this may not have covered all basis I did get to touch on what Isogender is, as well as some of the misconceptions and also some of the extremely harmful arguments related to it, and hopefully addressed them so we will not see them posted here out of Ignorance.

I will leave this post up in case people would like to add anything else, or engage in constructive criticism but if there is any significant hostility or attacks the comments may be locked.

[-] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago

I think we should still consider defederating them, in case they change their mind later and decide to come back and harass us (they've been known to engage in this sort of behavior). Honestly I just heard about this before I came on but I have heard drama from Hexbear in the past and in all honesty even if they do defederate I'm all for mutual defederation.

[-] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago

One of them made a post on Egg_irl with Astolfo which seems to be almost saying that they think Femboys and GNC are just trans girls in denial. Really didn't sit well with me since I know that that kind of think is very hurtful to Femboys and has been very hurtful to me as well as an Agender.

[-] [email protected] 63 points 1 year ago

There are no words to describe what a shitty person this is. I bet he's also a scab in the current Reddit protests trying to kiss up to spez for some crappy Reddit merch.

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submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION] drowning kid + skeleton Meme

In the top panel a mother and her kids are together in a swimming pool. The mother with text "egg_irl" is holding up her daughter with the text "transfems" over her. Meanwhile her son is drowning while she doesn't notice him with the text "transmascs" over him.

In the bottom Panel a skeleton is chained to a chair at the bottom of the ocean with the text "NonBinary/Genderqueer", "Genderfluid", and "Agender" over it. Each label is colored in the colors of their own Flags respectively.

[END OF IMAGE DESCRIPTION]

context: Back on the original egg_irl subreddit it was common for there to be a disproportionate amount of transfem memes versus the others and a lot of them forgot to flair as [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem] when needed and also a few were a bit targeting towards transmascs and masculine enbies i.e.

spoiler"get rid of your toxic, masculine mannerisms"
or
spoiler"transmascs have cute feminine faces"
. Some people even started saying Egg_irl is specifically a women's space and not a trans space in general.

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