Your example with YouTube is not an anti-spam measure, it's them trying to restrict and create exclusivity with their content, they're just lying and calling it anti-spam. I think it's better to have some annoying automated spam defense like Reddit and the gang does than it is to be judged on my worth and denied because I'm not interesting enough or meet some dumb criteria to join the exclusive clubs Lemmys are slowly becoming fuck that.
Blazingtransfem98
joined 1 month ago
It is, I don't go on Reddit anymore, it's insanely toxic. I've gotten all I could've gotten from there anyway. I only use Lemmy nowadays.
I'm gonna need a source on that.
Just pick an open one, that's the easiest choice. No essays, no worrying about being denied, easy.
Just pick one, you're thinking too hard. I just picked one that's open because I didn't want to write an essay about myself to prove my worth and get someone to accept me, because I know that there isn't any reason why anyone would accept me over someone else (I'm a nobody). I hate the idea of someone else having to review my worth before being allowed to sign up, what a disgusting concept. "Oh it's to stop spam 🤓" All the other sites have been dealing with Spam good enough without asking me to prove my worth to them, maybe the Fediverse should take some pointers from the big boys at Big tech, they seem to be doing better than you are when it comes to this.
Shoot him in the balls instead, where it really hurts. Headshot is too humane, ends his suffering, he won't pay for it that way, this way he will though.
I've never been able to get it the official way because the perverted doctor and therapist I was seeing really wanted to see "a man pretending to be a woman" and required I dress and act like a woman to get it. I wasn't willing to humiliate myself for them (I still have dignity) so DIY for me.
I have tried, I've tried for years. My voice is just too deep for it to sound feminine no matter how I speak, and it's not to say that I haven't been trying. I won't deny that I sound slightly more feminine than I did before but it still doesn't pass. Some people tell me it does but I do know they're only saying it to be nice, because anyone else will greet me as miss or ma'am when they see me but then change to sir when they hear me speak, even if I'm speaking fem.
Well I guess I can kiss the idea of official HRT, Voice, and Bottom surgery goodbye in the near future, not like I could afford those last two anyway. Hopefully I won't have to look for a new supplier, I have plenty stocked up just in case but you never know.
People tend to treat me very friendly and refer to me as ma'am, which feels nice. Right up until I speak then they correct themselves and say sir and it make me feel bad, on days when I've had enough I'll yell at them for being piece of shit bigoted asses and they usually get scared and go back to ma'am but it's not genuine.
Don't rely on people in your support circles to tell you you pass, they'll say you do even when you clearly don't. People I know insist that my voice passes because they want to affirm or make me feel better, but I know it doesn't because of how people treat me when I speak, also I've gone to voice training subs in the past on a burner account and asked if my voice was masc or fem without telling them if I was transmasc or transfem, they almost always said it sounded masc, and a small handful said androgynous. I don't meant to be rude or mean but I don't need people to make me feel better when I ask if I pass, I need people to be honest, even if being honest seems like it'll hurt me, cuz you know what'll hurt me more? Being assaulted in a woman's space because someone doesn't think I'm a woman. It's happened before.
You'd be better off simply buying extra on your own. I can't share where I get mine but I'm sure you could find a supply for you to stockpile in case you need to DIY in the future.
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I'm sorry I wasn't entirely clear, BIG server, with open sign-ups. The complaints about finding people aren't really valid when we have big servers like this one or mastodon.social. Such servers have the best reach and the easiest onboarding. Pick those.