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I’ve already mailed in my ballot, and I volunteered to be a poll worker (though they haven’t gotten in touch). With a week (maybe two) to go before we get the result, I feel caught in a limbo. It feels more important to me to be copying my important documents and organizing go-bags to be ready for a crisis than it does to do anything at work. I also recognize that that is probably a reaction to stress and anxiety and isn’t helping me. That said, I’m part of many groups that the right-wing hates and is openly threatening, so feeling unsafe doesn’t feel unreasonable either.

How are you all holding up out there? And tips for me to deal with this better?

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago

Weed, booze and benzos

[–] [email protected] 141 points 3 days ago (9 children)

You gotta get to the point where you worry about the things you can control, and let go of the things that you can’t.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 days ago (10 children)

This is actually a big message in the dharma of the Buddha.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago

Very true. And more easily said than done, unfortunately.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

There's no stress. There is zero that I can do about any of it other than vote. And where I'm at my vote really doesn't mean anything. I'm still going to vote, but my state isn't going to even come close to turning red.

If he wins I need to make an ernest attempt to find a quiet far away place to get the fuck out.

We're honestly just kind of stuck in the track we're in. With the current state of affairs we need billionaires who are okay with being taxed to send sufficient amounts of money into campaigns and fight off corporate entities on our behalf to no benefit of their own. Back in the Nixon and Reagan days we had a chance to have voices heard and run protests and stamp out some of the corruption but we're well past that now.

We need to put laws in place to stop the propaganda engines into wrest power from the oligarchs. But even the left doesn't truly want all that to happen.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago

Voted early.

Disconnected completely from any news source.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Compartmentalization. I only focus on what I can control. I read local news and mostly ignore national stuff because it is beyond my ability to affect change.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Head down just trying to do my hobbies, my job and some fun stuff like a virtual Bob Ross painting session tonight.

There's really nothing I can do besides voting and having others vote.

Writing my reps just gets me form responses.

The only country I can flee to is Ukraine since I was born there and uh...

[–] [email protected] 59 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Alcohol, cannabis, and limiting my exposure to news/politics. It's working wonders, TBH.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 3 days ago (9 children)

That actually sounds like you're not doing well at all.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This is what we do outside of election season as well. We, as a people, are not doing well... But at the same time, i think we're doing the best we can considering the state of things.

Our society is sick.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago (5 children)

Planning my Amerexit. I don’t want to leave, we have a decent country, but if Trump wins this place is going to go to hell fast.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

And it seems like Canada isn't far behind us either... Though maybe there will be a backlash up there once they see what Trump is doing down here.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Where are you planning to go?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Not the person you asked, but I'll give my answer: I don't know where I'd go, but I've been learning French for the last few years, in part, to increase my options.

(The other reason I picked French is that I've also been considering getting a sailboat and becoming nomadic, and France owns a whole bunch of tropical islands.)

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Come to California. We'll be the center of any resistance.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Thank you for fighting, unfortunately there are millions of morons who think Trump is amazing and I don’t feel having my family get caught up in dying for this bullshit.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (8 children)

Until the election happens I'm going about my life as normal, because I'm not about to self destruct while she still has a chance. If she wins I'm going to celebrate that I can keep living as I am.

In the meantime, I'm also making my exit plans in case Trump wins. I'm an openly leftist, transgender, neurodivergent, latina immigrant and performance artist. I'm going to be in the first wave of people rounded up.

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

Honestly, other than voting and trying to get those around me to actually give a shit, I'm not. Like in the past two elections, I'm having trouble grasping the fact that half of the (voting) country wants to elect a fascist. My mother told me over the phone that one of her neighbors is voting for Trump because "his wife is absolutely gorgeous". Like, how do you even respond to that, especially in any calm way?

Oh, and someone here reminded me: cannabis. Lots and lots of it.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 days ago

If you vote for someone because you think their wife is hot I don’t think you should be allowed to vote.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago

Reminds me of some French women who voted for Macron because he married a woman 25 years older than him (formerly his highschool literature teacher).

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 days ago

Well, my folks and I will stay in that night. We're in a heavy Trump area, and I'm more concerned about if he loses than wins. I honestly never thought we'd have to deal with Trump after his horrible presidency, so I've been on high alert since he was confirmed their canidate. My mom has all of us renewing our passports as well.

I know this is dramatic, but I may actually stay home "sick" if Trump wins. To reconcile with the fact that people would vote this absolute embarrassment in again would make me so terribly disappointed in my countrymen. And this was the campaign I really put my money where my mouth is: I volunteered, donated (when I could) , even protested. It's not so much that I like Harris, but the future that Trump and his cohorts has painted has been horrific. I would need some time to "grieve" so to speak.

Election night, I plan to have good weed when it's all said and done, because good God. Even if Harris makes it, this whole thing had been exhausting. And it won't stop. If Harris makes it, we still have so much fucking work to do, and just thinking of that wears me out.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Bottled water and prepping the generator. I fully expect the racist fucks out here to cause real problems, regardless of outcome. We already have daily parades of giant lifted trucks covered in Trump flags doing burnouts and screaming the n-word at people. In 2020 we had some protesting high school kids get attacked and beaten by adult Trump supporters, cops looked the other way. My town has a giant painting of a Nazi on its largest building, which is a Mason hall. I hate this place.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Ignoring it.

Bought a farm a few years back in northern Europe, it's beautiful, wife and kid moved, I'm communiting.

If shit hits the fan I'll be there, but some part of me has faith in my country, and even if the trash take over, I think we'll somehow survive.

Wife is thrilled to be out, kid is doing great. It's basically America but better, except without Amazon.

Besides, I survived the south, and I was a kid back then. I've seen their bigotry naked when they were strong and I was weak, i have no fear for them anymore. And if civil war does break out? I am an extraordinary engineer, particularly when it comes to military drones. Parry that with your crappy ar15 you filthy casual.

It helps knowing you literally can make a difference if you absolutely have to, so I recommend picking up a useful skill if you didn't during covid.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I left Canada when the politics started to mirror that of America's. Went to Europe, and while there are a lot of problems here as well (an increasing amount to boot), I'm happier overall.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 3 days ago (3 children)

People outside of US have the right to worry about this election as well imo. It's one of many currently on-going battles of autocracy vs democracy and this election will heavily shape the battlefield.

I wish all of the luck to my American friends and really that's all non-americans can do so I'll just grab a joint and catch up on the new season of What We Do In The Shadows until this blows over.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I figured out who to vote for and mostly lost faith in the American people. I deeply understand that the system is broken but electing a fascist is not the way to fix it unless you want it completely broken. Honestly pretty depressed about the whole thing because prospects are grim and I have little hope for the future after the past 10 years.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

As shameful as it may be, I’m reducing my stress by reminding myself that I, personally, will be fine regardless.

But I fear for many friends, loved ones, and strangers who may not fare as well.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 days ago

I've been writing postcards and letters to voters. It's a little too late to jump on the postcard wagon but letters can be written until 10/29. It's super easy, you're provided templates, instructions and addresses, you just need paper, envelopes and stamps.

https://votefwd.org/

I wrote a ton of both and it did wonders to distract me and give me something of purpose to do at the same time.

I'm pretty sure text banking and phone banking is still going on too.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Shit, man, I dunno. I already voted. I fly my blue-team flag in a red town. I hope that most of the people voting for him are just insensitive clods who aren't as personally hateful as the jokes they'll laugh at, or that they're somehow stupid enough to have been genuinely convinced that our creaky business-friendly center-left coalition is some sort of economy-dooming experiment in socialism. So yeah, I'm reduced to hoping that a large percentage of my fellow citizens are idiots and/or assholes, rather than actual fascists.

It's too close to know who will win, so things could turn out kinda okay if the Democrats pull it off. If Trump wins, maybe they don't manage the Senate and little of longstanding legislative harm gets passed. Sotomayor should be okay for the next four years, so for SCOTUS itself the damage is likely already done. Finally, I still mostly think that Trump will be content to line his pockets for four years and then pardon himself on the way out. He's too old to inspire any energy to repeal the 22nd amendment, and I don't see anyone behind him ready to slot in as an heir apparent, so maybe the less intensely awful republicans will reclaim some measure of control, or a gaggle of pretenders fragments their base and they can't really get organized to win nationally. A second Trump term is going to fucking suck, though, and a lot of innocent people are going to get hurt all across the world, many more than in a Harris administration, IMHO.

Shit's grim, and the Christian Nationalists see this as their time, possibly their last good chance in their current form, to really seize the reins of power.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I've already resigned myself to the fact that a) my candidates of choice likely won't win, and b) the results will be contested with complaints, nit-picking, tantrums, and probably violence across at least several states, and a final decision won't be known for a few weeks.

I'm trying to avoid political topics and articles a bit more than usual. I also have a lot of things going on in my personal life (not necessarily bad things, but lots of responsibilities) that are keeping me busy right now.

I had also saved up a couple of TV shows that I've been wanting to watch, to fill in some of the little free time I have right now.

Edit: fixed a word.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

A particularly insidious strain of Christianity trained me to resign myself to a premature death when I was still a teenager. Hasn't happened yet, and I'm in no hurry, because I care deeply for others. While I hate religion very much, it did instill in me very little fear of death.. I'm afraid for the fate of humanity so much more than my own.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago

I’m going to go drop off my ballot and sit back and wait for the results. There is nothing more I can do so there’s no sense in worrying about it. Focus on things you can actually change.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

I'm going to be in Hawaii for Election day. I already voted. Nothing more I can do personally. Gotta focus on the controllables in life. Going to try n enjoy paradise and tune it out as much as I can.

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