I have way more female friends than male. They say it’s because they feel safe around me. I give off very strong platonic vibes because I’m not really attracted to women unless there’s a super strong connection and even then it usually ends up being more platonic than anything else with the rare exception.

I don’t like being around men that much because most of the conversations are shallow, repetitive, and extremely bigoted. The male friends I have are much more open-minded and that’s because I’m very selective about who I befriend

Best I can do is be your platonic enby friend

Very cishet dude here; outside of a core group of dudes i met in middle and highschool, 90% of my other close friends have been women. I just dont always vibe super hard with dudes and its not like I'm going to invite them out to beers by ourselves, but with women its just always felt natural.

I have exactly zero friends who are traditionally masculine men, and I would say nearly all of friends are fem-presenting. I do have male friends, but they are cool, gentle, nerdy people. Recently I have realized that I don't like being referred to as a "man", but I do feel like a male, whatever that means. I do have male friends, but I am most comfortable among women. I wonder recently if this is just a rejection of patriarchy, rather than a gender dysphoria, like, I just don't like hanging around men because frankly they're rude, obnoxious, and misogynist. And I don't like being called a man because that would posit me within that group.

Anyway, just some thoughts.

This is exactly me, and yeah, it sucks

I do not get along with men. Like, at all. I don't feel comfortable around them, don't want to trust them, not interested in them. Idk why.

I get along much better with women but there's always the barrier of me being a guy, so I always feel like the outsider. But also apparently the women I know currently all think I'm gay, and a particularly queeny gay at that. I wasn't aware I gave off that vibe.

I don't know what to do with this information. I'm a tiny bit bi and I'm not offended by it, per se.

But it hurts for a reason I can't articulate. I feel like I'm even more the outsider. I'm nervous to interact with them knowing what they think.

I’m straight. I would say that I had a mixture of 60% male and 40% female friends, but an equal amount of acquaintances in either gender. While I had crushes like almost every grade, the idea that “you can’t be friends with the opposite gender” was never instilled in me, and luckily my family never did the “sexualized teasing” where they’d ask about my “girlfriends” or “dates” when I was just a kid, and cooties never really caught on at my school.

I also don’t think it’s your fault or any individual guy’s fault if a girl automatically thinks you’re hitting on them even if you’re just trying to be friends. I imagine most of them have experienced some outright dangerous situations with men and choose to be more cautious. It’s also not always about hostility, sometimes it’s just having uncomfortable experiences; I mean, whom amongst us have not misinterpret basic human kindness and attention from a girl as her falling in love with us?

It’s patriarchy, sure, but specifically it’s because we are rarely taught how to express or process any emotions from within or from others lol. We basically have to navigate it ourselves and many of our misconceptions are never addressed. And maybe you were taught those things or learned it, but unfortunately other people’s upbringing and mindsets will also affect our relationships without ever even meeting us.

It's a bit more recent for me (although as a kid boys/girls were always very separated), but I definitely gravitate towards women more. I feel like I "connect" with them better. Maybe the guys I meet just have bad social skills though.

Yeah, uh, men in general scare me I think because I am scared of my dad. Men who appear to have qualities more typically associated with femme-presenting people are the ones I tend to get along with more.

Obviously I'm not saying some traits or characteristics are essentially femme or for women, only, in the region I'm in, if you asked a bunch of people, probably more than 50% would presume other traits as being masculine rather than the ones I am referring to. Stuff like using words like 'cute', having great tasting cocktails, enjoying spas, hair removal procedures on their face (like between the eyebrows and in the upper cheek), etc.

Yep me, although I'm bi. Sometimes I wish I had a few dude friends, but I'm just bad at making friends in general.

Yup.

Once I got old enough that other people wouldn't pick on me for hanging around girls more than boys, pretty much all of my closest friends switched from males to females.

Yep, definitely. I do have some friends who are men but often we I don't really like most men I meet. I've also been confused for gay often in the past (am bi, prefer femme, even pickier with men sexually than socially).

More recently I do also feel like some think I'm looking for a partner, or unicorn hunting. Which I'm not, but I am a poly slut so that is a possibility, which definitely complicate things.

I do but I work in a female dominated industry and a few of the people are exes. So I am a bad example.

Once elementary school was over and gender division was rigidly socially enforced cause 90s, not by anyone in authority but self policed cause hanging out with girls was gay. Since then, pretty much an even split. I was once asked by a server out front if I have 'man colds' and a female work pal said asking me to settle how prevalent dudes exaggerate illness doesn't count as helping her argument cause I guess thats why I was asked. It felt good for a woman to point out that when polling men to get a general man opinion I'm a statistical outlier.

I always had more female than male friends. Key to making more is to do so in group contexts like softball leagues or volunteer work

I actually only have male friends. All of my friends are dudes. I had female friends in the past but that was ages ago.

I kinda' go through waves of it, but I definitely make womanly friends online more easily than men. Although IRL it's the opposite.