neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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I have exactly zero friends who are traditionally masculine men, and I would say nearly all of friends are fem-presenting. I do have male friends, but they are cool, gentle, nerdy people. Recently I have realized that I don't like being referred to as a "man", but I do feel like a male, whatever that means. I do have male friends, but I am most comfortable among women. I wonder recently if this is just a rejection of patriarchy, rather than a gender dysphoria, like, I just don't like hanging around men because frankly they're rude, obnoxious, and misogynist. And I don't like being called a man because that would posit me within that group.
Anyway, just some thoughts.
Everytime cis white male coworkers think only cis white men are listening the things they say blows my mind.
Like admitting to cheating, sexist comments, racism, transphobia etc.
I remember hearing one guy boast about installing a tracking app on his girlfriends phone.
You know what women coworkers say when they think men aren't listening?
"My boyfriend said I was getting fat, I need to lose weight." -Actual thing a woman coworker has said to me
I’m not even white. But conservative/libertarian white guys (and sometimes non white guys) will start telling their insane views and complaints within like 2 days of knowing me. It must be because I’m Asian because sometimes they’ll lower their voice and look behind their back at a room full of other white people/conservatives before turning back to me and saying some stupid bullshit. Like dog I got small eyes, and that’s enough for you to assume that I agree with your annoying ass 💀
yup, why the heck are these guys talking to me about how they 'manage' their wives/girlfriends?? and why suggest i do that stuff when i mention some troubles i have in my relationship???
i've recently read a tumblr post which resonated with me, but can't find anymore. It was something like this:
Men perform violence against non-men, but also, the way men exist can only exist because men perform violence against non-men. Dismantling patriarchical violence therefore also means dismantling manliness as we know it.
I don't really have deeper analysis than this, so also just some thought :)
edit: found the post