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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned


Rules

1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input

RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed

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I call myself “ostensibly cishet” because I look very much like a straight man, but I certainly don’t feel like a man and live in an area where my life would be destroyed if I referred to myself as something else

My use of language in the above sucks, but as a kid, I would always hang out at “the girls table” or in “the girls section” because the guys would always pick on me. It’s made life super difficult because when I meet a friend who is a woman now and ask them to hangout, their assumption is always that I want a partnership.

I literally only have one female friend who isn’t like this. It’s gotta be the fucking patriarchy right

Anyways, it’s so fucking lonely.

Why are apps only for people looking to fuck/get into relationships :/

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I have way more female friends than male. They say it’s because they feel safe around me. I give off very strong platonic vibes because I’m not really attracted to women unless there’s a super strong connection and even then it usually ends up being more platonic than anything else with the rare exception.

I don’t like being around men that much because most of the conversations are shallow, repetitive, and extremely bigoted. The male friends I have are much more open-minded and that’s because I’m very selective about who I befriend

[–] [email protected] 17 points 8 months ago

The shallowness and repetitiveness of male interactions really kill me. One of my male friends only wants to talk about internet bullshit. It's painful. I hope to god that's not how I make people feel.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

How would straight white dudes bond without racism and misogyny?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

In my case it’s mostly straight brown men saying that shit

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I like to show my 💍 or mention my wife earlier in the conversation. Also that it was me rather than her who suggested couple therapy.