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[–] [email protected] 52 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Walking again would be nice.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

Oh bro I'm sorry

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

I take my wish back and instead wish you get to walk again too

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[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 year ago (6 children)

To be happy. Depression is hell.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I'm sorry to hear that my guy

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago (3 children)

To retire. I'm not even 40 yet but I dread going to work every morning. I don't even hate my work - I just don't feel like even the relatively good salary I get is enough to compensate for the lost time.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I think I know what you mean. I've hit a phase where time spent at work feels like wasted time, since it's not time I got to spend doing something I wanted to be doing. Which is really contrary to the usual philosophy that time not spent money is wasted.

I've switched jobs gone back to school etc, but no matter what once something becomes a mandatory routine that time feels like a waste. I'm starting to really value and cherish the seconds I actually have control over.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I took 9 months off work (well kinda I did some freelance shit but I mostly got to not work). I did eventually get bored but it took 6 of those 9 months to actually get bored lol. It may have been different if I had enough money to do whatever I wanted but, I had enough to survive.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had a year long paid leave and that confirmed for me that my sense of meaning is in no way tied to my work.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago (5 children)

To be born a woman but since that's not possible it would be that my transition works fast and well.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

All the best for your transition. :)

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Socialism and stability. I want to persue my passions without needing to devote half of my waking hours to a job (which all are incredibly mentally draining for me), and without fear of not having my basic needs met, and I want everyone else to have the same opportunity. A job should be supplimental if people choose to work, which many will, as they feel it gives them purpose.

A post-scarcity society and the death of corruption would be cool too.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Yeah it's always strange to me that most people are working class yet most people are so allergic to the idea of socialism, thanks Russia

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

P r o p a g a n d a

Also the history of centralized control over industry hasn't worked out too well. I'm more of the Richard Wolff philosophy of democracy over the workplace, along with a very strong social safety net, including, but not limited to a UBI that is enough for people to comfortably live on.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

For the world to be un-fucked -- the ultra-wealthy (and system as a whole) giving a damn about people, the climate, etc. There are many other things I want, but if I could have anything, this would be it.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago

Live in a country where I can legally marry my boyfriend, have a little nice place and not be bothered by people.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (10 children)

That my country would stop being so god damn stupid.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Moving on with my life.

I'm near the end of my PhD. I've been at this lab for 5 years, as I joined before beginning my PhD, and I've been at the same university for 11ish years since I started my bachelor's. I deliver my thesis in April if all goes well, and can't wait to see what life has in store for me elsewhere.

I love most of my coworkers, but a few drive me nuts (and everyone else, too, and I tend to be a good mediator so I always end up in a position where I'm the only one who tries to help the troublesome guys). My main supervisor moved to another country a few years ago, and the one that took me in (the only other person with PhD students in the whole lab) hates my project (she has explicitly said so) and can't wait to get me to work on what everyone else is working on. Meanwhile my other supervisor (the one that moved) has recommended that I let go of the few responsibilities I had in this lab (apart from my project), which is a good decision, but has made me feel like I no longer belong here. Since I'm also retracting a bit to work on some papers, I feel increasingly isolated even though I love my coworkers.

Can't wait to finally get this over with and have an actual career in a lab where people don't hate my project, or even an industry job where I can feel like I actually make a difference. I'm also a bit fed up with the conditions in my country and would like to try moving somewhere where nanotech is actually in demand, like the Netherlands or something. Maybe I'll even risk a dramatic move to Asia!

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

To go back to sleep for another few hours

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hug from someone who cares ΰΌΌ ぀ β—•_β—• ༽぀

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just wanna like chill with no responsibilities or overhead for a bit

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To be loved.

Social cues are a bitch.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

To not have to work another day in my life. Sure I could say to be excessively wealthy but I'm happy with satisfying basic needs and living in my simple home. All I want is to be able to wake up every day without the crushing burden of having to keep a job that keeps the spectre of starvation and homelessness away for another few days.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (4 children)
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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A cure for my arthritis, I'm tired of it and it's fucking uncurable.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I want to live my life as I want it

Sadly, capitalism doesn't agree

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To stop doom scrolling, get off this toilet and to bed

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Love. But, it takes time.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Some freakin lotion dude my hands have alligator skin rn fr

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

For my husband and I to experience even just one day without back pain. It’s debilitating.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To be home, with my wife.

The problem with finding a perfect person, is having to spend time away from them.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Stability. Life has been so tumultuous this past year and I just want things to level out.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

To escape this person who I was born as, and who they've become. To find some peace, some tranquility, and devote my life to that. To feel something good without the depression radiating from the background.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

To have a programming job. I just got a bachelors degree for it and the job hunt is depressing.

Runner up: to know what I want. I have no idea what I want or how to proceed, except get a job.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To find somebody to love and that would reciprocate that love.

I had it at one point in time with 2 people, but they passed away 2 days apart from each other.

I hope to be able to find love like that again.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

A motorcycle. A fucking Motorcycle? A motorcycle. Huh.

This is so ridiculous, never in my life before have even been remotely interested in owning or riding a motorcycle.

I don't know what's changed in the past couple of months, but I have this newfound adoration of the machinery and engineering in bikes; the minutia of deliberate and considered intent involved in their design is fascinating to me, in a way cars never have been. For the first time in my life I'm learning about vehicular construction, maintenance, and and performance; because it's finally interesting to me. They way various mechanical components work in tandem to perform what is an objectively ludicrous and exhilarating experience, in sometimes impossible terrain

Not to mention a fascination with traveling the lost highways of America; instilled in no small part from watching Mr. Noah gervais' remarkable travel videos in which his nostalgic observations about a way of life that doesn't exist anymore shines across a canvas of the most some of the most beautiful landscapes and forgotten stories hidden in plain sight by a society that is hurdling towards a dystopic privatized hellscape wherein genuine experience is abandoned for superficiality and serfdom. https://youtube.com/@broadcaststsatic

I've discovered I have a deep yearning to explore the world around me, and to journey across the horizon to all the places I haven't seen. Without barriers or filters, to step outside the artificial social constructs that dictate so much of our life decisions and see what they've painted over.

A lot of romanticized bullshit for the fastest way to die on two wheels I guess; but that's what the idea of a bike feels to me. Looking to schedule an MSF class this weekend.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

A work-life balance honestly. I've been working 12s every day this year and I'm missing out on my hobbies and my family. Financially I'm fine, but I'm gearing up for an early retirement so I don't know if I can slow down now. So hard to make time for things I actually enjoy now. Basically just want to hit that balance so I have a fulfilling life.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

A job and a decent earning.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I would like to know how it feels to be competent at a job - any job. In my four decades on this earth I still haven't managed to find out what I want to be when I grow up. I've had many jobs over the years but never ever felt like I was decent at any of them. They're usually the kinds of jobs people don't want to do so I'm decently job-secure despite my ineptitude.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Gummi bears.

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