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I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.

How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'd say a third of the time. I catch myself writing and revealing too much.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I get pretty terrified of people attacking me for saying something wrong, so I tend to delete something I was about to say. I don't exactly have the greatest way with words, so an anonymous post where no one knows I'm not trying to be a jerk can be a bit difficult to handle.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Whenever I have a train of thought that suddenly stops and I don't want to spend time thinking how to finish the message

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I still catch myself in the process of replying to someone who is Wrong On The Internet, but for the most part I just let it go. It still bothers me, but I've accepted that nothing I say on a webforum is going to change any hearts or minds. Nowadays I mostly post to try and give people a cheap laugh.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I do it sometimes, when I realise midway that I was wrong/don't care enough (usually when I feel that someone hasn't done enough research, but I should likely tell them that instead of just stopping my reply).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Maybe one in 20 or so, mostly I've realized I misread the comment, or I just don't really feel like arguing any more.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Something akin to 10% of unwritten comments here. 5% are shared between cases when I write it for too long and still can't see it as a complete thought, or when I get distracted half-way through and can't care to continue. Other 5% is my stupid phone optimi... pushing apps from memory when I switch to something else (even if it's for fact-checking this exact comment), so I lose whatever I wrote and the thread itself.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'd say I post about 1/30 responses I make.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Do you write a lot of responses, or just do a low amount of bailing?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

All the time but not as often as I should.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

You gotta pick your battles.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Less now that I've learned to give up before I start.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find people online tend to have a lot more passion for arguing than I do so I often rethink posting any responses I come up with.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

This is what I hate the most about the practice of using a very "scorched earth" style of rhetoric focused on shaming and berating and making things uncomfortable for opponents. There's probably a lot of people with objections but they just don't feel like dealing with that stuff so they don't say anything.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

All the time. I could have typed a multi-paragraph masterpiece but then I realise I can't be bothered offering help in a world full of people that know everything about everything and are never wrong.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

I used to do it a lot.
Typically this would be responding to someone being provocative.
I decided that they were angry people just trying to make other people angry.
So now I write articles mocking them.
I am much more relaxed now.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Increasingly more often in the last year or two. Makes social media use for me a lot more pleasant. But sometime I still can't resist.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I can't think of a single time I've-

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Rough estimate, 30%. Either because my point ended up not being worth making, I ended up being wrong, or the message was dumped at some point between switching through 4 apps and 12 websites gathering information and I can't be arsed to write 400 words again.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

i do this increasingly often lately.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

One in five, I'll guess. I am prone to TMI, not as much intimate sharing as wanting to write about things that are too far remotely related.

I'm also prone to seguing into a rant as I have much to say I wish were said more often. Sometimes I edit those out. Sometimes I mark them as rants.

And then I am prone to mobile keyboard fatigue, and will wear out if a short explanation won't do. I get back to it at a proper keyboard less often than I don't.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Can't put a number on it, but I'd wager it happens the majority of the time

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

I wish more people on Lemmy and everywhere else were like you.

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