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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I went out with my sister and her friend tonight and the two of them were clearly different people.

When we went separate ways with the friend, I turned to my sister and said,

"You and _____ are so different, how did you become friends?"

She said,

"We have similar morals and we vibe (which I think means connect emotionally and get along well)."

That was the point where I realised I haven't emotionally connected with someone like that in YEARS. Everything has felt so surface level. The last time I felt like that about someone was probably high school (which I'd say wasn't that long ago, being a non-mature aged uni student now).

It's been a very long time since I've felt like someone gets me and I get them, like we're on the same wavelength. It's a sad reality that the people I see the most are not THE people that I "vibe" with. No wonder why I feel so freaking sad all the time - that's definitely a reason.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

so many big hugs from someone else who's a little weird

you're not alone

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Oh shit. Covid has really pixelated the shit out of us all huh? Someone mentioned something about adhd making us bad at reading friendships as well.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

can I add, when you do find someone you vibe with, treasure them because such a relationship is rare

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel this on a deep visceral level. I'd give almost anything to have a friend like that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I had friends like that in the US, I miss them so much it hurts