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Despite everything that's happened, I miss my friend.
We've known each other about 5 years, and been through thick and thin. We referred to each other as family. I was there for him, and he was there for me.
It all turned to shit pretty quickly once he got together with a new partner. We went from chatting a couple of times a week on the phone, to radio silence.
And then all the spiteful stuff that came afterwards. ie: telling me to give up trying to get an IT gig, withdrawing his reference (knowing full well at the time that I'd be fucked without it) almost like he wants me to fail.
I'm hurt. Deeply. And I know his new partner has something to do with it. But at the end of the day, they are his choices.
There's no coming back from what's happened. The door is shut from my end.
And so life goes on. My ability to trust in people a little more shaken.
So many hugs.
It's him, really, None of what he did and said was anything like what a friend does. Not even a good ex friend would ever want you to fail.
Yikes. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Some people just aren't who we think they are, or they change. And it sucks when they're dickheads, it hurts.
Having said that, and experienced it, I think most people are good and kind hearted. But when we ourselves have traumatic pasts, we attract those who seek to harm us.
Drop the turd and thrive, king ๐
And about still missing him.
that's because you remember the good times you had together.
so don't feel guilty , hugs