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Should I file a missing person's report for my spouse? (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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We’ve been separated for over seven years, but we are still legally married. I have been filing taxes separately since then. This year, I sent a message to his VOIP phone number to ask if he was able to file his own taxes this year. He didn’t respond to me, and I let it go. I didn’t want to bother him, and assumed he ignored my message. I haven’t heard from him since. No one has seen him, or heard from him in years. His friends began answering his emails for him, as some kind of joke, so emails I have received over the years were all from them. I assumed he told them to email me and message me in the past, with messages he intended for me to receive.

Should I file a missing person’s report for him?

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You need a better lawyer.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I can’t afford one. I did all the paperwork, at my husband’s request, both times. He met with the arbitrator to divide assets, but then failed to appear for the last ruling, so all of it was dismissed. We are still legally married, and I can’t afford a lawyer. There were no problems with the paperwork in the previous cases. The judge even commented on that. The problem is that my husband won’t appear to finalize the case. I wasted $465 both times I filed, not to mention wasted my gasoline and time to appear in court. They even marked me absent by mistake during the last court appearance for the second time we tried to divorce, and I had to correct them by telling them I was there, and just my spouse was absent. When they asked me where he was, I didn’t know what to tell them. I figured he stayed home, despite being given the notice to appear.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Arbitration isn’t an option if they won’t cooperate.

You need to file a motion with the court to allow “service by publication”, then publish a notice in the newspaper so a judge can hear the case without your deadbeat showing up.

https://www.wikihow.life/Divorce-a-Missing-Spouse-in-the-USA

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

I will look into this. Thank you for the information.