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[–] cobysev@lemmy.world 34 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I chose not to participate.

I joined the military as soon as I graduated high school, got a solid 20 years of free food, free shelter, free college education, free travel, and plenty of life skills/experiences, all while collecting a solid income. Then I retired at 38 years old, collected a pension and a 100% VA disability check for the rest of my life (which includes free medical/dental for life), and inherited my childhood home in the countryside when my father passed away this year.

I do what I can to help out my local community, but I'm not working and have no need to contribute to capitalism. I make my own schedule each day, do whatever hobbies/goals I have the energy for, then call it a day whenever and start again the next morning.

My wife gets the same VA benefits, although she didn't serve long enough to collect a pension; she was medically discharged. So we're both just enjoying a quiet life in the countryside, no jobs, just focused on whatever makes us happy each day.

This is the life everyone deserves to have, and I'm upset that capitalism is basically the opposite of this lifestyle. They preach that if you're not working, you're a drain on society. Because the fewer workers they have, the less money that's generated for the rich elites running the capitalist regime. That's why our retirement age keeps going up. The longer people live, the more time they have to be productive members of "society" (read: capitalism). No thanks; I retired at 38 and I'm happy enjoying my youth while I still have some semblance of it.

EDIT: I just want to point out that military life was basically democratic socialism, with all our needs met, the govt ensuring we had food and a home, education was free, most all work-related expenses paid for. (uniforms, travel, etc.) Our paycheck was basically just spending money for us. We didn't have to worry about covering bills because we received a separate "allowance" to cover rent/mortgage and utilities. Food was another allowance on top of our paycheck. If we were reassigned to another base somewhere in the world, the govt would foot the bill for movers and they packed your house for you. And you basically had to break the law to be kicked out of the military, so job security was excellent. We all got paid based on our rank and time in service, so it didn't matter if you were a geothermal physicist or just handing out towels at the gym; everyone got the same wage across the board. It was an ideal situation. You'll be hard pressed to find something similar in the rest of America.

[–] sifr@retrolemmy.com 13 points 1 day ago

Wish I joined the military, sometimes. But my heavy conscience got in the way.

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[–] Texas_Hangover@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I go to work, enjoy my hobbies, support my family, and drink a lot.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 4 points 1 day ago

Username checks out

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't. I'm literally on suicide watch trying new psych meds and wondering if the emotion storms are triggered by news, or the new drugs. Whee.

When the entire country is tilting day by day over the precipice about to fall into the abyss of fascist, one-party autocracy, it feels like the night before the Martians emerge with their tripods and heat rays. I feel like Fiver seeing the notice board portending the disaster of Sandleford Warren. I feel cursed for slighting Apollo somehow.

People are carrying on as if there's nothing wrong or nothing we can do, and I can't understand how they continue to function.

[–] Creeoyfred@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Good luck in your journey fellow human. I don't have anything else to offer but that someone read your words and you created thoughts in my head. Truly hope you best of everything. Cheers.

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Thank you.

So long as Federal shennanigans don't accelerate my situation (say by killing Social Security) then I should be okay.

But yeah, I'm super vulnerable like brain surgery during a hurricaine.

[–] lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone 46 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Cannabis and passive suicidal ideation

Edit: And if you're like me, make sure you call 988 and talk to someone. That's what I had to do earlier today, and this time it was actually kinda helpful.

[–] Makhno@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I just like thinking about it, ya know?

[–] DeadWorldWalking@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

The only freedom i have left in my life is deciding when I die, so i get to feel a little free whenever i decide that today isn't the day...

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

My stupid body took the cannabis away from me, now all I have is the passive suicidal ideation... It's also my retirement plan! Good ol' 40~~9mm~~1k

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[–] PagingDoctorLove@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

I act like this is not a drill. We've put together an emergency kit. We have a reverse osmosis water filter. I've been stockpiling seeds, personal care items, first aid supplies, and shelf stable food. I spend my time reading, playing board games and doing puzzles with my spouse. We're spoiling the heck out of our pets. Trying not to spend money unless absolutely necessary. Towing the line between staying informed and doom scrolling. Some days better than others.

I should probably be more active. I shouldn't drink at all, but I still do on occasion. I should be eating healthier and engaging in my community. But I only have so much energy and to be honest I'm barely holding on. Secretly praying for a Hail Mary because I can't believe this sham of an election is going to go through. I just can't.

[–] ch00f@lemmy.world 44 points 1 day ago

First I realized that I was reading the news for entertainment, not to actually get informed in any meaningful actionable way.

Then I started to doubt any headline that confirmed my biases. “Trump says terrible thing” boils down to a 3 second sound bite with zero context. “Trump voters regret voting for him” is a summary of 8 tweets taken off a recent trump post. “New study” has 23 participants.

In other words read the damn article. Things are bad, but not quite as relentlessly bad as social media would have you believe.

Also, I vote, I donate, I march. There’s not much else I can do, so what does all this “being informed” do me? Me being miserable doesn’t help anybody.

Second: stop consuming rage bait. 50% of Reddit is just videos of people being insane in public. It’d have you believing that we live in a warzone. We don’t. There is nothing to be gained from watching that shit.

Outside of that, picked up some video games and even started reading books again. Trying to deprogram the brainrot that makes it hard to concentrate on anything for more than 10 seconds.

Oh, and alcohol.

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

Currently? Mostly making shitposts about chaining CEOs to boulders and casting them into the Sea, advocating to build big bronze statues of cold-blooded murderers, and openly wishing for certain people to be struck by lightning. Some real Biblical shit.

It's not a death threat if you just wish God does the dirty work!

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[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

Vintage non-internet connected devices, self hosting open source services, buying used clothes, while I slowly prepare my retirement as a hermit in the mountains of west virginia

[–] HawlSera@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Try really hard to ignore all evidence against the afterlife.

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[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (4 children)
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[–] Mac@mander.xyz 16 points 1 day ago

Treats and escapism 🥰

[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 11 points 1 day ago

50% socially acceptable self destruction (eating too much of the wrong things) and 50% dissociating while exercising (in hopes the collapse happens soon enough to make my physical fitness relevant.)

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Alcohol.

The understanding that death will eventually release me from this mortal coil.

And that all the assholes that work against the wellbeing of the average person are also going to die.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 12 points 1 day ago

Compartmentalization. Prioritize dealing with the things I can control first. The rest is noise until I have extra time to worry about it.

[–] YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Mostly, self-destructive coping skills, just not very well in general

[–] Talaraine@fedia.io 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Moved out to the country, gardened, raised animals, breathed clean air and listened to the wind.

I find peace in learning and doing things well that, even if the system disintegrates, need to be done to move forward.

[–] tamal3@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I dream about moving out OF the country.

[–] EleventhHour@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)
[–] Makhno@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

I've cut down dramatically on the booze, increased the weed and feel a lot better. You can smoke so much more if you don't drink, it's awesome

[–] Blaze@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 day ago

Feel free to crosspost on !AskUSA@discuss.online

[–] demesisx@infosec.pub 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I go to asklemmy threads and try to sneak my message by their partisan hack, censorship/ban-happy mods by leaving subtle jabs like this one:

https://lemmy.world/comment/13937684

[–] GuyDudeman@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

I focus on what tasks I have to get done today and do them. Then I doomscroll.

[–] Shardikprime@lemmy.world -1 points 20 hours ago

Me and my family have been doing really well since we escaped the leftist venezuelan dictatorship.

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