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[–] [email protected] 86 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Look. It's pointless to compare yourself to others. Everyone does things at their own pace, on their own time. Who cares if someone has lost their virginity before you have? Genuinely, it doesn't fucking matter. Life your own life, and speak your own truth.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The virginity is less of an issue than 31 years of loneliness. Like, people say you don't need a relationship to be happy and that's true, but it really doesn't fucking help in the slightest. It's just a pointless platitude from people who don't understand the pain.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Having been in a long distance relationship during COVID, with times where I couldn't meet my girlfriend for 12 and 18 months, I know just how the loneliness crushed me and how much happier I am now we're married and living together.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Oof yeah. My husband and I shared a house, but we rarely talked or saw each other during that time because he works in healthcare. We lived in separate parts of the house and didn't even observe holidays.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Virginity is such a pointless concept in the first place.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Came here to say this and share this

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I would like to see the width of this distribution. statistics without error bars are MEANINGLESS!

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yep. Lost it at 22 here. Granted I lost it in a bath house gangbang so that might make up for a few things.

Haha, I'm a slut!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Ohhh – was trying to remember where I knew the small of your back from

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Oh! It was you who crawled under the sling for a better look!

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Virginity is fake and made up.

Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.

It also isn't a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.

Rant over.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To be fair, Someone that has "more orgasms than average" saying not to worry about it is like a rich guy saying money doesn't buy happiness.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

No, it is like a rich guy saying "Money doesn't make you more mature, spiritually enlightened or a better person"

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Thank you for your rant.

To add: Your SO is not a replacement for a social network. Don't hunt for the one, place people you click with at all distance levels as you get to know them. A healthy social network leads to healthy relationships.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I've heard that if you make it to 30, you become a wizard! Don't be upset you're a virgin, be glad that you're still on the path to wizardry; for once you've left the path, you cannot return. Many a mortal have become enamored with animalistic rituals; casting aside their true potential in exchange for the temporary satisfaction of fulfilling their carnal desires. You, however, may still become a powerful wizard; one who'll shock and awe the fools who so eagerly left the path of knowledge and metaphysical enlightenment.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Hi I made it to 30 and no wizard powers yet.

… Wait is anticheat on? I got a hacked client that automatically disabled my desire for partnered “fun time” so it made the grind to 30 with that status effect a lot easier.

Did I miss out on wizard powers?!

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

When you look at it as risking parenthood I think average age becomes irrelevant. I'm fucking glad I didn't risk parenthood at 17

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (6 children)

fuck im 17 for only 9 more months wtf do I do

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Jokes aside, it's all about confidence. If anything, fake it 'till you make it. I was terrible with girls for a long time until I stopped caring and just went for it. Then I was amazed how easy it was.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

That is excellent good advice that everyone should follow and implement fully.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Stop sweating it. Don't focus on it when meeting people. It'll happen, and it'll be better if you come to it by being an enjoyable human being.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I only have 5 months now.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

So... how are you doing so far?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Masturbate furiously until you fuck someone

On a more serious note, there is something good about not getting that need satisfied. Everyone's different, but I have noticed a tendency in people that get that need satisfied very early on, and those that don't.

There are definitely exceptions to this, but generally speaking, I have noticed those that get that need met have less excuses to grow, or sometimes grow so much with the person they love, that they end up losing a bit of themself

Outside of my own experiences, there's a YouTube channel I found recently "HealthyGamerGG", really cool stuff there

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Was 23 before I lost mine. Wasn't even fun.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Just one more thing I’m completely average at.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Hell yeah 🧙‍♂️

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago