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[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Spelling errors on professional documents, especially signs/posters/ads. You don't have to know everything, but you have to check before putting it up.

When I see restaurant specials boards riddled with mistakes it makes me want to not eat there.

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[–] [email protected] 53 points 6 days ago (1 children)

'It has chemicals in it'

This use of 'chemicals' as something inherently bad just makes it sound like they're parroting some scaremongering tiktok.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I had this talk with a member of my family. Water is a chemical, salt is a chemical. Just because you don't immediately know what it is, doesn't mean its bad.

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[–] [email protected] 102 points 6 days ago (9 children)

Being completely unaware of anyone else:

  • Standing in doorways, using your phone or having a conversation
  • Talking loudly when inappropriate, when I’m in pain at the doctors, I don’t want to hear about your roses
  • leaving your shopping trolley blocking the aisle sideways in the supermarket while looking for your stuff
  • driving down the middle of the road so everyone else has to pull over, when there’s plenty of room for two cars to pass
  • stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is
  • riding your delivery bike down the footpath at high speed weaving between pedestrians

As Jean-Paul Sartre said, “Hell is other people”.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 6 days ago (4 children)

stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is

That's my new pet peeve. The thing is I don't remember seeing people do this in the past and certainly not frequently, but now I see it all the time. Mind-boggling selfishness. I think Covid rotted everyone's brains way more than we realize.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of people just throwing trash out their car windows. It’s become disturbingly common and I really want to scream at the that the world is not their trashcan. I don’t, because I really think I would get shot.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago

When I was 14 I tossed a piece of packaging for the chips I was eating on the ground. I don't know why I did that, I'd been so against it as a good little kid, I think my mind was just experimenting at the time with whether I really needed to give a shit about this anymore. Probably some kind of "edginess" I was cultivating perhaps. Anyway, some middle aged teacherly guy picked it up in front of me and put it in the bin. Then he gave me a statistic about how our city was the "nth cleanest in the world and we should keep it that way". I was by myself but kinda scoffingly shrugged it off as he walked away to show I didn't care what he thought. But being called out like that and feeling that hot flush of angry embarrassment and being forced to pay specific attention to my actions instantly and dramatically recalibrated that drift in my values on the issue of of littering in a permanent way. It wasn't because they made an especially good point, in fact I didn't find the statistic particularly compelling I mean of all the reasons to do the bare minimum of decency that seems like one of the worst, like it's some sort of competition or something. Nevertheless it was just a reminder at the perfect moment that no, this isn't going to be acceptable even if there's no obvious consequence and you shouldn't start to feel okay about this.

The fact that the guy was kinda lame and had such middle aged dad and teacher vibes about him I think made all the difference, there wasn't an angry confrontation, but it was still firm. He backed off and walked away straight after he said his piece rather than giving me the chance to turn it in to an argument where I might feel rebellious and victorious about it, he just calmly left me to stew in the fact that whatever bravado I might have put on for him, he didn't care and I was going to have to reckon with why I ever thought this was going to be a good habit to start.

I bring this up because maybe if you have the opportunity to you actually should say something, though obviously carefully and not too aggressively. Sometimes it makes a difference even if by their response the person would appear to indicate that it didn't.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)
  • People who take phone calls with it on speaker
  • People that have anything on speaker while in a public place
  • Wearing "MAGA" clothing
  • Having a cyber truck
  • Leaving large gaps in the drive thru queue
  • People with young children that they dress up like little adults.
  • People who refuse to learn basic tech (email, texting, etc.)
  • Edit: People that don't like animals, or they dislike just cats. I feel like people who don't vibe with animals in some way are... Off.

~~damn, I'm a judgy bitch~~

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[–] [email protected] 83 points 6 days ago (10 children)

If you cannot chew with your mouth closed and you are older than 6 years, you should not be allowed to vote, operate heavy machinery or have children.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 days ago (5 children)

Common misuse of words. Decimate means reduce by 1/10 not almost completely destroy. Exponential growth. The variable has to be in the exponent if it's a constant exponent that is polynomial growth. Gaslighting isn't just lying. It's making someone belive that they can't trust their own memories or experiences so they believe you despite evidence to the contrary.

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[–] [email protected] 50 points 6 days ago (10 children)

Owning giant pickup trucks and SUVs. I'm not that secretive about it, though. I assume everyone driving them is an insecure, overgrown child who wants a big vroom vroom.

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[–] [email protected] 68 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (4 children)

Not using headphones in public. I’m done being quiet about it tho

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Here's something positive: precisely mentioning what they tried on a problem already!

If someone's stuck on a problem and defines what help they need, then I have no thoughts either way. It's just a problem, and something to be helped through. Neutral.

But if they describe what they did already, then I think "Wow, this person really put in some I-don't-give-up effort! Nice work, bro!"

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Saying that they could care less when they mean they couldn't care less.

Like, of course anyone can care less than they currently do.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 6 days ago

Being religious

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Shit Parking.

If you're driving a 2 ton metal box and can't have the spatial awareness to fit it into a large rectangle, you shouldn't be on the road.

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[–] [email protected] 52 points 6 days ago (23 children)

"Passive income" if you describe yourself as having a passive income, I want nothing to do with you.

Passive income is a myth - all income requires labor... if you're getting income without putting in labor then you're stealing someone else's income.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (14 children)

Leaving things they decided they don't want just wherever in a store. It's annoying as a customer, because now I have to dig through their mess to get the product I actually wanted, and even moreso as an employee.

At least put it back in the right department. The underpaid employees who have been there since before the store opened for the day really don't want to have to play the game of "How long has this ground beef been sitting in a produce basket, and how much product did we just lose?"

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 6 days ago (7 children)

How much time it takes for somebody in front of me in line to complete whatever the line is about.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

I loudly judge people for things that I think are morally wrong, but I would feel quite bad if I voiced some of my other opinions. Yesterday one of my friends complained about someone coming through the McDonalds drive through and ordering too many chicken nuggets. They said that person had "no respect for how they made the employees feel". It's like... come on man. They just wanted some nuggies. Surely you can muster the immense strength of will required to cook a few extra?

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 6 days ago

Whenever another guy recommends something I find repulsive, for various reasons, I tend to write off most respect I had for that person.
Lately some guys have talked positively about Andrew Tate, and it's just made it easier for me to know who is a gullible prick and who to avoid.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (3 children)

People with shattered phone screens.

Pretty much anyone with a broken phone screen are just chaos moving around.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I understand where you're coming from, but it might just have been a simple accident and they're too poor or don't have the time to get it fixed. I went around with a shattered screen for about six months.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 6 days ago (6 children)

All the people typing "loose" when they mean "lose". Shit's been happening a lot for the past year or two and I don't know why.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 days ago (2 children)

It's just the natural evolution of language. Rules become loser over time

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 6 days ago (1 children)

People who brag their infant child is so smart they can use YouTube to find and watch videos when in reality they're shitty parents who got a 2-year old addicted YouTube that's specifically designed to be navigable by kids.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago (1 children)

The speed of their windshield wipers.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 6 days ago (3 children)

People being shitty to customer service workers and utility, and people not being courteous to them.

Heck, I sometimes judge people for not thanking service workers and utility. For example: if a janitor lets you pass a hallway they've been busy cleaning, I'd silently judge you if you don't thank the janitor for letting you pass. Another example is in a fast food setting: if the person on the counter gives you your order, I'd silently judge you if you don't say "thank you".

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 days ago (15 children)

People who don't like cats.

I've noticed a correlation between people who don't like cats and having narcissistic or selfish tendencies. Could be just an impression but that's how I feel.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 days ago (1 children)

People who are using their cellphone/mobile as a telefon (calling someone) but not holding it as a telephone but as a slab in front of their face. And ofc with the speaker on.

Slightly better but still stupid: Videocalling (or Facetiming) with the phone right in front of their nose.

I mean, just hold the phone so that the speaker is at your ear and the mic is right by your mouth...

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 6 days ago (5 children)

Not using their turn signals if the only other traffic is pedestrians.

So many times I’ve been crossing an intersection to the opposite corner where I could cross either street first, so I pick the street that won't block the car crossing the other way. They’re not signalling so I figure they’re going straight, and cross the other way so they won’t have to wait for me—but seemingly every time it turns out the car was really turning after all. So they’re stuck because they couldn’t conceive of pedestrians as traffic they need to communicate with.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I don’t understand how people don’t indicate in general. It’s just so automatic for me, I’d need to make a conscious effort not to.

Sometimes I accidentally indicate because I’m going around a sharp bend that my brain registers as a corner 😂

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 days ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 33 points 6 days ago (5 children)

I judge people quietly for smoking.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 6 days ago (10 children)

Low curiousity/worldliness. Honestly makes me think someone is either dull or maybe depressed

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

The 'brands' they are displaying.

I see people checking me and others out. What runners are they? Jordans or KMart? Is that a Lacoste or walmart? Is that a real Rolex or D&G handbag?

But for me, it's not judging them like you think.

I judge them flashing brands as a sign of insecurity, a need to appear wealthy and 'fit in', and a likely 'keep up with the Jones' jealous type.

So, I actually feel sad for them.

And, yes, I am aware it's super judgemental and I'm no doubt hypocritical as well, as there are some things I will buy certain brands for.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago (7 children)

Being all like "I fucking love science" whilst perpetuating ignorance of what science actually is like

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Talking loudly on the phone, while on public transport.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago

Nothing.

I'm very vocal in my judgements.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago (2 children)

People who say nukular instead of nuclear ☢️

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Casual fossil fuel use. Not work related shit, but asking me to drive an hour to you to chat because you won't learn discord is demoralizing. I know that it's not a big source of CO2, but it adds up and the same people who do it also throw food out, don't fix anything and don't demand more action from their politicians. They RP as revolutionaries, but don't do anything.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 days ago (6 children)

People who write "rouge" instead of "rogue".

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Putting the dollar sign after the number. Yes, that is how it is read, but not how it is written. "Five dollars" is $5, not 5$.

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