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Some older male is using my husband's name in social media profiles (lemmy.world)
submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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So, I understand that some people can have the same name, but this isn’t the case with my husband. My husband’s name is so unusually spelled that he was the only person, besides his biological father, who had that first and last name combination on a birth certificate. This is a fact that he shared with me when we first started dating. He seemed pretty proud of that, and I always thought it was funny. After I married him, and changed my last name to his, I became the only woman in America that had my first and last name on record. It’s just that odd of a last name, so please trust me on this one when I say that someone is using his name.

The profile on instagram, that I just discovered, displays a profile picture of an older man, standing, or sitting, beside a woman of about the same age. I wanted to report it to instagram, but there wasn’t an option to report the possibility of a spouse’s stolen identity. It is definitely not my husband’s account. The friends listed in the pages he follows, are not any names that I recognize from his group of friends. He would never lose contact with some of his closest friends.

I am worried.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 5 months ago (1 children)

OP, you need to get help with your mental health.

You keep making these posts showing clear signs of paranoia and delusions.

Like, how are either you able to looks up your "the only name on record" claims in the first place, just search social media profiles? Is that how you found this guy?

Now you're stalking some online person because of a fluke coincidence?

Like, just a few days ago you had a post saying all these other people were stealing his identity, now it's online strangers?

Asking if you should reporting him missing after years?

It's just at the point people just need to tell you bluntly:

Seek mental health help before things get so bad you instinctively reject anything that goes against delusions.

I know it sucks to hear, and you're going to think it's part of a conspiracy, but you need to get professional help.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Are you going to start a GoFundMe for this too?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Whoever you are, whatever your game or mental health issue is, it would seem people here have tired of your shenanigans.

You might have more luck back on Reddit.

[–] [email protected] -5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I’m not pulling any shenanigans. Here is hoping you never have to experience your spouse looking for you. It seems like you want me to shut up and stop looking for my husband. Any reason why? I hope his friends aren’t stalking my account because they did something to him and can’t admit it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

We're tired of your posting a new crazy story everyday. Then deleting the post. When the conversation doesn't support your narrative.

Also you haven't had any contact with your husband in 7 years, according to the post you deleted yesterday. How do you know he's looking for you?

[–] [email protected] -3 points 5 months ago

Oh, you speak for everyone? “We’re tired of…”? My posts are crazy? Then stop reading them. If you are ever missing, I will ignore posts about it.

He probably isn’t looking for me. He probably has found someone new and lives with her. I would like to be officially divorced to severe legal and financial ties. Does that seem crazy to you?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

If any of the stuff you've been posting recently is even remotely true: You need help beyond what random people on an internet forum can help you with. Seriously.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 5 months ago

If anyone has seen him, or sees this post and shows him the wedding photo in my post history, perhaps I can find him. No one else really cares. I have explained this to family, and they don’t care because he physically abused me when we lived together. I realize that, and I don’t want him in my personal life, again. I don’t agree with letting people suffer, though, if he’s homeless somewhere, and can’t reach out for help. Since he’s so popular, I doubt he is. I guess I should just assume his friends are taking care of him, if he is, and that he doesn’t want to communicate with me. I’ll just stay out of it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I have a similar problem in that some people who legit have my name don't comprehend that my gmail address is MINE and not theirs.

I didn't WANT an Instagram account, I have one NOW because some idiot signed up for it with my address so I changed the password and took it over.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I keep seeing these posts in All and this feels like a really elaborate and well thought out trolling setup with the responses by OP to those commenting.

Bravo.

If on the very slim chance otherwise, good luck with everything.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I wouldn’t waste my time on some lie. I spent the past seven years not caring, because I figured my husband set it all up to troll me. Now, I’m sorry I cared. I shouldn’t have even mentioned it. Let the cops find him, or not. It’s not my problem anymore. If someone tries to come after me for some problems he has caused while we were apart, I’ll just refuse to help. Who cares? It’s not like my husband is family to me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

It’s the curse of being human and having a conscience, I’m afraid. Mind vs. heart and all that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

If you're going to make these posts. Don't delete them. You're not incentivizing anybody to talk to you when you delete your post when you get a reaction you don't like.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (2 children)

There seems to be something big going on in your life. Did you expose a truth that the public should not know, like the true shape of the earth?

[–] [email protected] -1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I think deep down, my family has always had these issues. I’m the baby of the family, and I can remember all the family drama of the early 90’s. It doesn’t surprise me that my distant relatives are pulling some stunt with my husband’s ID. I think they are behind the fake social media account.