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[–] [email protected] 73 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Remember Valentine's day 2004, when San Francisco county started issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples?

Thousands of couples showed up. Some from the other side of the planet, some from the other side of town. The County Clerk was overwhelmed and there weren't nearly enough wedding officiants to keep up. So they put out a call for volunteers to be deputized by the Clerk as county marriage commissioners. I volunteered and officiated at dozens of ceremonies at city hall.

Still have my official commission hanging on my wall.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

Okay, that is awesome.

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Leaving Islam, I know this comment will spark some debate, which is pointless ( to me at least ).. So fingers crossed nothing will happen

Muslims often say: "oh, so you're an atheist!, tell us where do you get your morals?" And "Oh, you left Islam so you can live a life of sin, drinking alcohol and having sex with tons of people"...

The irony is that the reason you leave Islam ( or any other "organized" cult ) is because of your intact moral compass, you're against violence ( murder and war ), homophobia, sexism, pedophilia, racism, slavery, genital mutilation, you're against fear, control, indoctrination... And the list goes on.. And even if it was true, I left Islam to live a life of sin, the prize of winning in Islam, is to live an internal life of sin in heaven so... 👉👈

I live in a Muslim country, and It's safe to say ( not out loud, if you know what I mean ) that the only reason people here are muslims is because they're indoctrinated, from birth.. you hear the same arguments, the same logical fallacies, the same pathetic biases ... from every person, that's why I said it's pointless...

It's sad, to live undercover with "friends" and "family" who will let you go if they knew the real you, and it's really a lonely life, and it gets even lonelier because I'm fucking gay, I used to think, not so much, but I thought of going back and trying to fit in, try to be like everyone else, maybe If I can live in a broken system, I'll stop seeing how broken it is... But I can't, and I won't, it's just doesn't work like that, once you're awakened, you can't go back to sleep.

So, I'm proud because I feel like I'm a better human being, because when I look around and see Muslims praying on the downfall of Jews and Christians, ( and I don't know about Christians and Jews so don't ask me, I would say probably the same lol.. 😂, they all hate each other...) When I see that, I see how religion divides us ( "in order to rule us" ... Like Mr Robot said ) and how much hate people carry because of such beliefs

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Brushing my teeth. I've been through progressive hard depression from an early age. Yeah. It's not much

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Small improvements are still improvements, my friend - good on ya!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm trying to build a flossing habit, myself

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Any self improvement, as small as it may seam, creates a momentum to change other things.

Celebrate that change and use it to make other positive changes.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

You're wrong friend.

Even for people that are not depressed, brushing their teeth is almost a chore.

You brushing your teeth, not only shows great resilience, but also improvement

[–] [email protected] 22 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Going to talk therapy. Getting married and having kids really pushed me and helps me keep going on the hardest days. I cannot have mental illness affect their lives like it did mine growing up.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Just cleaned up my whole apartment. I don't think I've ever lived anywhere where the whole place is this clean. I normally deep clean one area then stop and by the time i clean the next area the first ones dirty again. Everything is sorted nicely, got stuff hung up that I've been putting off, vacuumed in every corner, the whole works. I'm exhausted but super proud

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Clean begets clean I find. It’s so much easier to tidy up than have to do a big cleaning. You’ve already done the hard part.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

I'm proud of you too

[–] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I'm 20. I haven't made it big but I've moved into a place with my best friend, have paid off my car without help from my dad, have a steady job making good money, can work on my own car, and have friends that make good company. I'd say I'm proud from getting all of this in the 2 years since high school

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm 20 and I did none of those. I'm a loser. I'm dropping out of college most probably

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago

I have three kids. I was present for the birth of the youngest two. But I adopted my oldest. She was 12 so she had to tell the judge she was OK with it. I told her it came with two conditions: Nothing between us needed to change and she didn't have to call me "Dad". She calls me by first name to my face but she calls me "dad" behind my back. I'll take it.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago

It just so happens I'm proud of something I did two hours ago as I write this sentence. A friend of mine said they needed a constant companion for the time being, and another friend said they needed a certain demographic to be friends with, and after realizing the first friend fell under that demographic, I thought "wait, do these two people know each other". Three hours ago as I write this sentence, I introduced them, and they really hit it off. I just made three people very happy.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

They made a rule against using bird houses in a demolition contest because of me. It’s not my fault they asked for the most effective way of getting through a steel plate instead of the most precise.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I would love more details.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

So there I was with something of an informal competition in front of me to make the “best” shaped charge to blow throw about a two inch steel plate. It was really just something like practicing skills and maybe showing off creativity.

Most people took “best” to mean most efficient, precise, or cleanly shaped hole in the metal. I took a different meaning. A Mongo minded meaning.

People showed up with their creations and proceeded to pack them with explosives. Most were C4 filled and under half a pound, many of them much less. Shaped charges made of coins, wine bottles, whatever else.

I brought a bird house similar to:

Removed the copper roof, put it in a 5 gallon bucket and proceeded to fill the bucket with as much C4 as it could hold. I don’t know how much. It was a lot. More explode means more good.

My charge had to go last for fear of disrupting everything else. I put a dachshund sized hole in the steel plate along with a massive crack. Penetrated the dirt a few feet down. Somebody even recovered the copper penetrator and turned it into a keychain.

After that they put a size limit on how much explosives you could use. Really not my fault there wasn’t a limit in the first place.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I quit smoking. Had too many downsides to be justifiable.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Hell yeah! Proud of you, internet stranger. Quitting, I hear, is one of the most difficult things.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago

When I was still in a band we played the same venue that I saw one of my favorite bands play at once. That was really cool, even though it was on a Monday and we just played to other bands.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago

In 2007, I, a non-white non-Korean, took a job in South Korea. Then, I took another. Then, at the third job, I was hired, but the owner's brother was amenable to some of the more racist thoughts that guided the approach to business in SK. He thought I would hurt the business. He resisted hiring another non-white, non-Korean.

The owner asked me to write a letter. Instead of saying, "that's not my job", I wrote the letter. I made the case. They hired another non-white, non-Korean after me.

I'm still pretty proud of that letter.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

The indomitability of the human spirit. Good for you!

[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Being part of a team that helped a child learn to communicate in their own way. They went from dangerous head banging behaviors, having to work in a padded room to sitting at a desk with nearly no SIB. Not all wine and roses but damn it’s night and day over the last 2 years.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Being pleasant and helpful to customers at work. What I do is by no means important, but I take pride in doing it well (or at least trying to). Too many people in customer service are bored, apathetic, or act like you’re bothering them by asking them to do their jobs. I like to make people smile.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (2 children)

As someone who has worked in the customer service industry... I will not allow you to belittle yourself.

What I do by no means [is] important,

If I were standing next to you right now, I would playfully but with meaning, open up your cranium, lean down, sternly point, and talk to your brain with the following. "You stop being mean to @[email protected] or you're going to have to deal with me."

I 1000% disagree with the selected statement above. You and your work are very important to the people that come in. If it weren't for the work that you do, I can guarantee you that there would be more people feeling lonely, discontent, or frustration. Being pleasant is a sought after characteristic, I would argue in all work industries. (Think about it. How well would a company perform or last, if it wasn't for those who work there, being pleasant to be around?) Being helpful: I'm goodness. People LOVE to be out shopping and find an employee that actually wants to help you out. It's a high ranking frustration for customers in any industry. Nobody (in my experience,) wants to always have to find things or do things for themselves at a business. So if you genuinely like making people smile or providing a good shopping experience, you're a badass in my book.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago (4 children)

I took up an instrument for the first time in my late 30s and have gotten okay at it. If I was 8 years old people would nod politely to my parents after my recital.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (6 children)

I made some mods for a few games. People still use 'em.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago

Over the past year my AVG daily step count is over 15k.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Something I wrote has been read on every continent.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

That's wonderful! What did you write about? Link? =)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

Erotic muppet fan fiction.

The link would get me banned from Lemmy.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I can't link without doxing myself, but it was a civil rights political essay at a time when I was far more involved in activism than I am now.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Went back to school in my mid-30s, just for my AA. But it got my foot in the door to a great field and now the upwards momentum is almost limitless.

I'm not really looking to be some big shot, as I prefer work balanced, but I love that I'm not stuck where I was before.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (3 children)

An unhoused woman recently asked me if I'd buy her some food at a fast food joint. I said ok because I think I have a moral obligation to help anyone who asks for food if I can afford to. She ordered the largest multi-item meal they offered (think bucket of chicken). The person ringing it up offered to do a smaller combo, but I said fuck it and let her get the largest. I figured she might have people to feed other than herself and it's not like I couldn't afford to let her indulge.

The reason I'm proud on this is because I changed myself into this compassionate person where once there was an angry person filled with hate. This is the product of years of therapy and deliberate self-work. I'm also proud of finally being able to love myself. That happened in 2019-2020.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Sometimes I proud of myself of just solving problems that haven't settled in days, which makes me a bit of achievement.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

When helping someone knowing very well that I won't get anything from them in return.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Stuff keeps breaking in my house. I hate fixing the stuff, but I always feel super proud when it's done.

In the last month I replaced an electrical outlet that released its magic smoke when the electric griddle cord short circuited. I replaced the igniter in our gas oven. And just today I replaced the insinkerator garbage disposal that started leaking water under the sink.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

my mom started teaching deaf kids at a school in my hometown. this school is mostly attended by kids from poor families and some from nearby villages. the funding of this school is very small, and not much is provided to help prepare classes. note that my mom never knew how to speak sign language but she was very determined to learn to to.

my mom also wasn’t pc-literate and was previously not keen on learning to use it but in order to excel (pun not intended) at her position she was required to learn to use word and other teaching tools on the computer.

so i helped her get started and showed her how to prepare her classes using images and she was quite a fast learner and resources online to learn sign language, but i was especially happy to find some amazing tools that had kid friendly animations which helped her teach them to write and speak sign language

something that really touched me is that one day, her work computer was malfunctioning so i had to visit her and fix it for her. when i walked in, her students didn’t recognize me so they asked her who i was, and when she told them i was her son who got her those learning tools they became ecstatic and signed how grateful they were to be able to meet me in real life

they’re mostly 8-14yo and were marginalized especially since the class they attended was previously discontinued and they had no other way to become literate and integrate a bit more into society. ive sat through some of her sessions and ill never forget the look in their eyes and how happy and excited to learn they all were

they went on to get their 6th grade diploma and some of them even continued their studies beyond that, im also proud of my mom who helped save them and at least be more literate, even though its not much to a full education but its about as good as it gets given the circumstances

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Getting involved in local street design projects, and making a literally concrete difference.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Do mean like a skill, a habit, or a project? Or something else entirely?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I can be anything you are proud of. I'm just asking that it's something that you did.

Does that help?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

In that case: I've carved out a pretty decent career despite no formal education at all, and virtually no network to lean on. I got where I am because I'm good at what I do, and my 30% paycheck increase when I was recently poached by a competitor proves it.

Also, I make an awesome porkbelly roast.

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