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If You Can't Control Yourself, Don't Be Polyamorous - Poly Land (poly.land)

submitted 10 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I dont like the text. Self control and love dont mix that well (for me). Also telling people they should not be polyamorous as if thats a choice for everybody is just not how that works for everybody.

Let me tell you, if you can’t exercise self-control, then there’s no way you should be polyamorous. All that lies down that path is pain, bad behavior, heartache, and disappointment.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

All intimate relationships are about trust and respecting boundaries.

If you do not/can not/will not exercise self control and respect those boundaries, no relationship style will work for you.

I dont like the text. Self control and love dont mix that well (for me).

Sounds like you want to do what ever you want, when ever you want. Nothing wrong with that.

There is a name for that: Being Single

[+] [email protected] -12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Sorry but I dont think its reasonable to judge how I act and how I respect boundaries without knowing me like at all. I think you based your comment on lots of assumptions before even asking any question or trying to actually understand me. Feels hypocritical when you do that.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Sorry but I dont think its reasonable to judge how I act and how I respect boundaries without knowing me like at all.

Self control and love dont mix that well

I was going off your own statements. If you have no self control then you do not respect boundaries.

I think you based your comment on lots of assumptions

I did not say you had no self control and made no assumptions, you did explicitly stated it.

[–] [email protected] -5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If you have no self control then you do not respect boundaries.

Like who needs self control for that? Isnt it just the most basic thing to be careful and mindful with the people you love or care about?

Maybe we have different perspectives on what self control means for us, but instead of exploring that you tell me I dont respect boundaries. Seems like we will not reach an understanding.