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[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago (3 children)

I love your comment from yesterday I think, "don't burn yourself out to keep others warm." I'm gonna steal it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

I've also seen it more dramatically stated as "don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm ".

It comes up a lot on the caregiving Reddit sub, there are way too many people who are manipulated into prioritizing other people's needs above their own.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

The one that really stuck with me from this whole discussion was "Youโ€™ve kind of shot yourself in the foot there, can you please not bleed on my kitchen floor?".

You're definitely doing the right thing by doing your best not to get pulled into the drama.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

All good advice are lessons learned in the flames that chill, rather than burn.

It can apply to many differing situations, but the best thing you can do is look after yourself first and foremost. One cannot do anything for anyone else, if one is broken from lack of self-care.