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Should I file a missing person's report for my spouse? (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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We’ve been separated for over seven years, but we are still legally married. I have been filing taxes separately since then. This year, I sent a message to his VOIP phone number to ask if he was able to file his own taxes this year. He didn’t respond to me, and I let it go. I didn’t want to bother him, and assumed he ignored my message. I haven’t heard from him since. No one has seen him, or heard from him in years. His friends began answering his emails for him, as some kind of joke, so emails I have received over the years were all from them. I assumed he told them to email me and message me in the past, with messages he intended for me to receive.

Should I file a missing person’s report for him?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

His friends started responding to his emails for a span covering years? That's a bit strange, I don't understand why or how they'd do that unless asked to and given the credentials.

If those friends are included in the people who haven't heard from him in years, I'd consider that behaviour a little suspicious.

If you can't find any evidence of activity, or anybody to vouch for him - I'd consider filing a report.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I might. I have postponed filing a report because he had to have given his friends all of his online passwords. They even had his driver’s license at one point.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

that's fraud level of weird

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

It worries me. I feel like if I don’t say something, then I might be liable for whatever happens because of their arrangement.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yea, file it. He won't show for divorce proceedings, his friends are risking your financial security with that car...screw him.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

I think I will. I don’t know which law enforcement office to notify. We were married in the county in which I currently reside. He has supposedly been living in another county, about 30 miles from me, since 2017. The last county I saw him in was a totally different county, though, and it is about a 9 hour drive from where I am.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

This is not normal. If you weren't already divorcing him, this would be a good reason to do so.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Yeah. I’m just dreading a call from a jail, or a hospital at this point.