This has happened to me a few times. One I remember was the game Alchemist, where I just sat there confused as hell for 4 and a half hours while three guys were all talking about strategies. Tonight it was Terraforming Mars, where I was told it would be a 3 hour game, but by hour 4 we were halfway done. This time I said "it's 11pm, I have work in the morning, this will be my last hand" and the host got very passive aggressive with me. I just don't know what to do in these situations.
^Also is there a word for this? My girlfriend said I was "held game hostage" but I don't see that used in my searches.^
Update:
I sent an apology for leaving early, and he wasn't too frustrated about it and understood my frustration which was nice. I told him I didn't think it was my cup of tea since it was so dense, but he kept trying to sell me on the game.
I just gotta learn how to decline with this guy, he is a bit of a "won't take no for an answer" person, but I'm still learning to be firm with boundaries.
I'm really a 45 minute or less person, and prefer games with like... 5 rules. I have communicated that before, but he really wants me to play the games he loves which I take as a compliment.
He did have me playing Dominion for a while, and that was a time when I just would suck it up and play for his sake since he was going through a divorce. We literally had the parks and rec sketch where I said "I don't really like Dominion" and he said "what do you mean? You've played all the games!"
He housed me when I was homeless, so it's hard for me to decline things with him since he showed me that huge kindness.
I loathe Terraforming Mars, because you can't ease into it. You start at full speed and if you don't know what you're doing at the start, you're already fucked. The problem is, you don't know that, so it's one of those where you to royally fuck up twice, before you can play a good game.
You can't just go "well, I'm the tree-planting guys, I should probably focus on planting trees", because the game doesn't reward some things at all. There are straight up worse choices.
I spent a weekend learning a boardgame, only to find out it kinda sucks.
I partially agree with you. I like playing the game, but it does have some problems. The biggest thing is that you can fairly easily get screwed on cards and have no real options. There's also a common occurrence that one player will be put into an unwinnable position every game. The other problem is the expansions make the game worse and significantly longer, if you happen to be the player that gets screwed it's just more waiting to lose.