syreus

Being sociable ≠ Being annoying/creepy

That's all about intent. You gauge a response using body language. My gym has a racquetball court. I get asked to play all the time by random people. Be friendly and people will come to you. I had a problem with facial expressions growing up and I worked on mirroring. I mostly do it without thinking these days but it didn't start that way.

You can meet people at the gym. General rule is don't be disruptive.

I said ask someone out to coffee and they responded "who"? The implication was that they aren't exposed to a lot of people.

Hopefully seeing my "typical" advice will inspire someone to give it a try instead of just ignoring it as a neurotypical approach.

I'm just trying to spread advice on what worked for me. And I'm speaking in general whereas Nothing burger directly called me neurotypical with the intent to discredit my advice.

That being said I'm getting a little adgitated by some of the dms I have received.

Literally anyone you see regularly see. Make light eye contact and smile. After a couple times seeing the same person just try something simple:

" I see you here often. Do you know ______?"

A: Yes/ "Ya they have been coming here since _____. I started back in ________."

B: No/ "Oh, well I'm ________ it's a pleasure to meet you."

You are planting seeds of discourse. It makes you more approachable.

I have engaged you here in good faith so I'd appreciate the same in return.

Have a good day. I don't think I can achieve anything here over text.

Therapy and psychology is valid. There are plenty of providers that operate with a sliding scale and if you income is what I assume you will be free/low cost case.

You don't need to "cure" your autism. You just need to identify the parts of you that are more abrasive and manage them.

I hope you find what you are looking for, or at the least find someone to help you work on yourself.

Thank you for the well thought out reply. I understand what you are trying to say. The finances and time to pursue love can't just be snatched out of the ether. Do not lose hope and become bitter. The only advice I have left is that if you have trouble being the instigator then the kink community may introduce you to someone more forward.

I recommend not calling someone you exchanged two comments with neurotypical. It's quite rude and in this case outright wrong.

Since we are talking in circles refer to my first statement.

Ask someone out for coffee. (In case you are wondering the unwritten first rule is introduce yourself)

If you have someone like a therapist/counselor/psychologist. I reccomend you work with them to smooth your edges.

Get out of the house. Join some group activities. Enrich yourself. Make some friends.

If you are looking for a more specific example then try yoga or an exercise group like cycling. These kind of activities signal that you are looking to improve yourself and that is always a plus. Just remember not to leer and be polite.

It sounds like online dating is a boon to you. As far as your hobbies go you should try branching out into less male dominated ones. Sometimes you meet someone that you can spend time in each other's worlds but maintain your own as well. It sounds like you have some real barriers to overcome.

The whole fake it till you make it thing can be applicable here but therapy is valid and cheaper than you think. You are worthy and deserving of love.

Ask someone out for coffee. Talk about your week. Ask about theirs. Don't treat the interaction as a pass/fail. Repeat. If you have mutual attraction then nature will play out.

Doing the bare minimum hygiene and the appearance of happiness drastically improves your chances.

Dating is for finding someone you enjoy being around. Sex is a result of growing closer.

Obviously some people have it easier than others but I have peers that just refuse to ask people out for coffee or a lunch. I'm a late millennial if that matters.

Be a decent person and if a love interest doesn't personally find you attractive they WILL tell their friends. NEVER talk poorly about your previous relationships. Learn a few jokes.

The privatization of love is a real problem but the classic approach isn't dead.

This is the way.