internalized pressure and overthinking
Yes, exactly that. What I'm saying it's it's a lot more common than it has any right to be -- at least in the USA. I'm legitimately happy if you're insulated from it and/or have the self confidence to see it for what it is and brush it off. I'm of the same mind on that in that I have the confidence to laugh at it and ignore it.
I'm talking about the men that don't, and how unfortunately it's a huge problem. My experience has been the opposite: I'm in a "skilled" male dominated blue-collar job: the amount of dysfunctional, toxic masculinity I see on a daily basis is wild. Even when I was "white collar" it was there, if to a lesser degree.
A lot of guys of all ages are deeply insecure and are falling into the "traditional manhood" grift to the detriment of themselves and those around them. The extreme examples like incels, Andrew Tate, right-wing ideas on "manhood", "trad" idiots gaining momentum are a symptom of a far more widespread problem.
There's "knowing" on a theoretical level, and knowing having experienced it. As the generational knowledge of people that have experienced fascism dies off the younger generations have to learn the hard way. Seems to happen every 100 or so years.
The idea of "European exceptionalism" is no different than the idea of "American exceptionalism". People are fundamentally the same regardless of where they live -- we all have the same base instincts, the same hard-coded tribalistic tendencies, and the same fears. Every population on the planet is susceptible to fascism because it preys on the aforementioned.