Fully agree. It would be like saying people with @gmail addresses can't email people on @someFederated.com email addresses. Also I think (and correct me if I'm wrong here) the idea of "defederating" gives power to some in a way we hated reddit admins having power. Suddenly it's "totally the fediverse except when...".
Imo fuck that. If I don't like threads I won't use threads the same way if I don't like lemmy.someinstance I won't interact with lemmy.someinstance. leave it open and let the users choose. But also let's educate. Some will listen and some will roll their eyes. But it's a choice.
Haha my wife is saying the same thing! Everyday I have a new one but I'm pretty happy with the collection now so I can calm down. I think I'm most excited about going to record stores and exploring the collections. It feels like I'm 16 again going to used record stores to find rare tapes and CDs.