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I got told today I shouldn't raise kids because I'd purposefully raise them in a vegan household, without animal products of any sort. I was told this would be dangerous and unfair to the kids.

It was a weirdly direct thing for this person to say to me (one of my coworkers). It's stuck in my head. I was told I should let my potential children choose what sort of morals they have, even though this person is raising their kids Catholic. Their advice to me was to allow my potential kids to choose every night between a meat-based meal and a vegan meal (???). And several other coworkers agreed. Where do they come up with this? No carnist raises their kids like this.

So is anyone raising vegan kids or does anyone know about what it's like? Or was anyone here raised in a vegan household?

I never got into it and I feel like I'm missing a huge social part of my life. I've tried alcohol and it just tastes bad. Maybe if I had enough to get inebriated I'd feel different, but so far nothing about the experience of drinking has been good. Also I grew up around Baptists who don't have drinking in the culture, so maybe that's part of it? My parents never had alcohol in the house and there was never beer/wine at family gatherings. I never even saw a full glass of beer in person until I was like 23.

Bars are too loud and there's too much expectation to drink, parties have the same problem, drinking at home alone sounds sad. I go to concerts and I'm the only person without a huge glass of beer. People hand me drinks and I'm like "nah" and they get mega confused.

What do I do

Is this the opposite of a problem?

I just realized I have no idea why this happened. Does anyone have a good dialectical materialist explanation?

Person the other week noticed I was wearing vegan Doc Martens (the tags are white for vegan shoes). I know they're polyurethane, which isn't great, but I'd prefer that over animal skin on my feet. This person was apparently also a vegan, but says they prefer wearing leather (what) because in their words "Animal leather is biodegradable, lasts longer, and is a by-product of the already existing meat industry." making the point that animal leather has less of an environmental impact.

I didn't know how to respond at all. I know veganism isn't simply consumption habits but it did make me feel weird. I still don't think anyone should wear leather.

Does anyone have advice? I'm just feeling weird and self-conscious now

In the interests of leftist unity I'll also accept a soirée

Does anyone have experience figuring out if they're aro/ace? This is all over been thinking about lately. I've realized I've never imagined myself in a relationship, I only tried dating because it felt like I was supposed to. I don't relate to the idea of having a crush or being in love. I've lived alone for the past 7 years and only went on dates when prodded.

I used to feel bad about it, like I was missing something, but also I realized I've never attempting dating completely unprompted.

I'm otherwise ok with myself. I don't feel like something's missing, but I do feel very awkward around other people since my life is a lot more solitary. Never having a romantic partner would be alright with me, but I'm struggling with my self-image and how I'm gonna relate to people for the rest of my life. Since I'm at an age where most of my peers have lives revolving around spouses and kids. Am I aro/ace then or do I gotta do more examination of myself?

I learned I naturally do goofy stance

I kinda regret my username, but I've been here 3 years so it's stuck. Hi everyone. I lurked around on the old subreddit, but never posted anything. I was always too shy since everyone seemed so high energy and more interesting than me. But then I came here and learned y'all are super nice and helpful. Most pleasant internet community I've ever been a part of, including all the way back to the IRC days. About me:

I'm nonbinary and I've been calling myself a communist since the Iraq War. I try to stay well read but I get lazy about it sometimes. I come from a deeply racist, reactionary small town in America and it's liberating to talk about how I escaped all of that. Sometimes I tell y'all stories about my family and how bad they can get, like one cousin is in the Klan, another is an Ayn Rand worshiping small business guy who keeps getting caught doing wage theft.

I'm an amateur musician/producer and tinker with electronics. I play guitar, flute, I fiddle with modular synths, sampling, etc. I read a lot, I really like horror and magical realism. I like Jorge Luis Borges a lot even though he was a bit of a liberal. I play a lot of video games, I have a soft spot for Touhou, Yakuza, Silent Hill, and early 90s point and click games (Sam and Max especially).

I really like movies too, especially really surreal artsy stuff from directors like David Lynch, Jodorosky, Tartovksy, Suzan Pitt.

Thanks everyone for tolerating me when I get mopey or aggressive sometimes. I sometimes feel like I'm annoying here but everyone's super cool. Hope I can spend more time with everyone and continue to learn stuff.

I suppose it makes sense. I have no close friends and I completely avoid social situations unless I have to be in them. It would explain why I always feel like the center of (negative) attention in any given room, or why I always feel like I'm annoying people or that I sound smug.

The doctor told me people with AVPD often have trouble understanding who they are as a person, and can't latch onto specific identities, but I haven't thought about that much. The pamphlet and stuff I'm reading online also seems to suggest AVPD has such overlap with social/general anxiety they're almost the same thing.

Anyone else have experience with this?

It's literally like this:

Materialists/Physicalists: "The thoughts in your head come from your conditions and are ultimately the result of your organs and nervous system. Your consciousness is linked to your brain activity and other parts of your body interacting with the physical real world."

Dualists: "Ok but what if there were an imaginary zombie that has the same organs and molecular structure as a living person but somehow isn't alive on some metaphysical level. If this zombie is conceivable, that means it must be metaphysically true somehow."

Materialists: "That's circular and imaginary, isn't it?"

Other dualists: "Ok but what if I were in a swamp and lightning strikes a tree and magically creates a copy of me but it's not actually me because it doesn't have my soul."

Am I reading this stuff wrong or are these actually the best arguments for mind-body dualism