I talk like that in real life.
I play a lot of table top role playing games, so maybe that's why, but we exist.
Your mother is saying nonsense. My mom knew I liked girls when I was 4. She thought that was normal, because I'm a trans woman, but it was obvious even then.
I'm sorry. You don't deserve invalidation. You deserve affirmation. You don't owe your mother anything, but it's possible that your dad or a grandparent can be an ally for you with the rest of the family.
How can you tell them? I don't know. "Hey, I have something important to tell you." Will probably force the issue.
You don't have to come out, but if you want to, that's how I would start.
This is sensible.
Welcome Fabienne! That is a lovely name.
I came out and started my transition over a decade ago. It's been a wild ride from marriage equality here in the US to the current climate of fear.
I hope your journey is as rewarding as mine has been. I have a wonderful group of friends and family that supports and affirms me.
Ok, so, you have first part down, give yourself chances to meet new people.
Next, it gets harder. Be nice, be interesting. Be funny, helpful, some combination of the above to give people you interact with positive memories/feelings for you. If you can swing it, be physically attractive. Do your makeup, wear nice clothes, etc. All this is just to get a good vibe.
Next you need time. Someone you have met three times who was nice and dresses well is an acquaintance. Someone you have been gaming/book grouping/camping with for the past 3 years who is nice and funny is a friend. Consistency is key.
Finally, if you have doubts, ask yourself the question: "would a friend act like this?" This goes for both you and them. If they call you up at 2AM because their car broke down, a friend would go help them.
If they invite you to do hard drugs on a work-night, they are not acting like friends, they are acting like addicts, and going out with them might be fun, but it will hurt you, and friends don't hurt their friends.
Friends don't always take and never give. So bring drinks to the meetup, but also don't be the only person that always brings the drinks. Etc etc, details depend on your circumstances.
I hope this helps someone.
I'm sorry for how your family reacted.
My mother cried. It was hard. She tried to deny it. I was really hoping she would help me and even be happy for me, but she was devastated. She said she would always love me and she didn't call me any names, but that was the best I got for years.
My aunt and Uncle, who I was working for at the time, were just kinda shocked. They gave a tepid "we hope this makes you happy."
All my friends were cool. Nearly all my coworkers were cool. A couple years later, when I came out to my new job to transition full time, management was super cool. They did everything I asked and used my new name from day one.
I had some rough spots, lost touch with some of my family. But overall I was prepared for much worse. Many years later, my mother, aunt, and uncle, were much warmer and supportive at my wedding.
So all's well that ends well.
I like the change.
Why would you be faking it?
What evidence do you have that you are trans?
What evidence do you have that you are cis?
Do you want to be trans?
Those are the starting questions?