I now understand why Lemmy is called "link aggregator" software

Gotcha. I like that approach. Thanks!

I've never used object storage before, so I'm not even sure that's the best approach for the use case. It makes sense when you need to access storage provided by a 3rd party in a standardized way, but perhaps it's overkill when everything is self hosted. I wonder if folks have other ways to connect the application to remote storage that's less "heavy." That said, I will certainly dig into Minio, as it seems to be the best of breed. Thanks!

I guess there are a few -> https://geekflare.com/self-hosted-s3/

Thank you so much. A lot of great points here. Thanks for taking the time

Thanks for your response. She did have a right to stay, and if she had asked to, I would have had no choice. In fact about a week later we made a brief attempt at reconciliation, and quickly came to the conclusion that it wouldn't work. She then voluntarily packed up and left for good.

Thanks for that perspective, appreciate the response

I've actually been kind of a broker in keeping them connected. The 4 of us were still doing things together, usually at my suggestion, despite my not wanted to see her, so that they would. I tried hard to keep them connected and keep their relationships from falling apart. My thanks is that she more or less robbed me in the divorce, taking as much as she could. She's on her own with the kids now, I never want to see her again. They do still spend some time together. Both the kids understand that she is their only mom and always will be.

Yeah, they'd wonder and ask for sure. Also, I believe that when they inevitably would learn about it, they'd be upset with me for withholding it from them

Ah it didn't occur to me that mods at various instances may be removing individual comments. Can an instance moderate the individual thread comments of a community from another instance? I was thinking that federating with another instance meant all that instance's threads and comments would be available to your users in turn. If that's not the case, then the only way for a user to be sure to get all of a community's content is view it from that community's home server

Having multiple communities in different instances for the same topic is a controversial topic that I haven't yet settled on an opinion about. However, what I'm talking about here is that the content for the same community shows different across various instances. That seems very broken to me

If you port forward to your Pi, only your Pi will be exposed. But, if your Pi gets pwned, it can in turn attack anything next to it. Safest is to isolate the Pi on it's own subnet or a DMZ if your router has the functionality.

Of note, many home ISPs block standard server ports like 80 and 443. You might need to use non standard ports like 8080 and 8443