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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sure as shit beats not existing. You can’t play video games when you’re dead

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

You don't know that. For all you know, this is just one arcade game out of potentially many that you're currently plugged into

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I’m hesitant to share my opinion because I think it’s unpopular and I don’t want to upset anybody, but in the interest of making others like myself not feel so alone… I think if we’re being deeply honest with ourselves, it probably isn’t? I have a good enough life, but if I never existed I couldn’t be sad to not experience it. I want to enjoy things to the best of my ability (and have made some pretty good strides towards this lately), and don’t want to go through the potentially painful and scary process of dying, and some people depend on me, so I’m here for the time being and I think that’s good enough for now :). But truthfully if I had the choice I think I’d rather not go through this, even though I’m perfectly happy right now. I just find it very hard to go through life and I’d be grateful to not have to work and worry so much. I kind of wish it was less taboo to talk about this because it’s hard to have these thoughts alone, and I think it’d be nice if we could come up with better answers.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I agree. Not existing beats life. BUT since I'm already here, I'll stay because I love my mom (still would rather not exist)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I think I’d rather not go through this, even though I’m perfectly happy right now. I just find it very hard to go through life and I’d be grateful to not have to work and worry so much

I feel the same most of the time. Thank you for sharing

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You might find this video helpful to understand that you're not alone in this.

Also I feel the same way. I'd rather not experience the pain and suffering, but I'm here anyway and therefore I'll occupy my time doing things I think have meaning.

For me that's using my ability to engineer things that people find helpful and make life better.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Here is an alternative Piped link(s):

You might find this video helpful to understand that you're not alone in this.

Piped is a privacy-respecting open-source alternative frontend to YouTube.

I'm open-source; check me out at GitHub.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What's ... what's the alternative?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

We live in a time of most access, most abundance, and most peace. Even if you’re doing it tough, you still have it better than most humans in history ever have.

Relish in that because it probably won’t last. We could be remembered as the 2 or 3 generations to ever live in a golden age of resources, space, health, access, opportunity and freedom.

I often eat a meal and look at my plate and think… the components and flavours on this plate alone come from 5 or 6 countries, while I’m sitting in total safety and comfort, while also being entertained in some way, and if I want I can immediately talk to my family or friends, who live 3,000kms away, who I know are all alive and healthy.

Some of that wouldn’t have been true two decades ago. Probably none of it would have been true for people 100 years ago. Probably most it won’t be true for people in 100 years.

We really are in the sweet spot.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I hope you're wrong but I fear you're right.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

You could be wrong. People may have thought what you thought 100 years ago thinking it could not get much better.

But you are right on that we live in one of the most prosperous times in history. Was said well. Possibly the next big change will be the ability to control our DNA evolution or discover a real understanding of the human brain in ways that may result in a change to humanity that would be completely foreign to us. They might think that is the pinnacle.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes. Must tune out any bullshit that doesn't belong in your personal bubble.

Vote, but, ignore politics as a whole.

Try to avoid news.

Figure out a way to get out of the house. Doesn't need to cost $$. Walks. Visit a local park.

Realize you do not have to put up with anyone's personal drama. Not even family.

Get a cat. Unconditional love. Easy maintenance and can be fine alone for long days or even a long weekend with the proper prep.

Live for yourself!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Dogs are cool but they add an additional burden of finding someone to watch them when they can't be taken. I think cats provide a similar bond as dogs and are much less maintenance.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Also, you don't have to take the cat out back and shoot him when he bites your nephew's face

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Correct. I love dogs. But, don't have the $ for a dog walker while I'm gone for minimum of 12hrs/day for work. And, my GF and I take many random get aways because we have 3 day weekends every week.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

It's pretty cool.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I didn't ask for this shit, I wasn't even offered a warranty. Not worth it imo

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There have been times when it was worth it. I keep going because I think I might have more of those.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Damn. Sorry to hear that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

What level are you at, if I may ask?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Remember that you won’t be hearing from people that aren’t connected to the internet.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

So just humans and ghosts with wifi then.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Can't ask the dead ... the unborn this

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not by default, but if you cut life short then you can't find the things that make it "worth it" in the end. And those things, the ones that make it so freaking worth it, they're out there. They're rich and beautiful and sometimes deceivingly simple.

I've been in a "not worth it" place before. The possibility of a "worth it" place was so foreign I don't remember even thinking about the future. I'm in a "worth it" place now. I know it may not be permanent but I hope that I can at least help others make their lives worth it if not always my own.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

they're out there

Not for everyone

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Didn't ask for it...but at the same time, actually existing beats not existing IMO. And since I (and by extension, you and anyone else) exist in an uncaring universe, I am free to live life as I please--within reason--so all things considered it's...actually not bad at all. Yeah there's sucky parts to it, but most things that are worth it have bumps in the road.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

By itself it doesn’t mean anything, I mean for the universe a rock and you are the same shit. Imo who makes life valuable, is not even yourself, it’s the loved ones. And by loved I mean those that you can trust and add positive values to your life and of course love you back.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Meaning is principically found in relativity to something else. In a database, items only have a meaning because they've got a connection and relation. Your shoes have meaning because their purpose is to be worn, so your feet are protected. Relational beings' purpose, our purpose, is to live in relationship - with which I'm trying to say, our meaning can only be found in relationship.

Wether those relationship are pleasant, gratifying and uplifting or discouraging, debilitating and grueling depends on the habits, choices and abilities of how we interact with each other

So, by just existing there's inherent meaning (and value, purpose) included in us already

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Find something wholesome that you enjoy and do the fuck out of it. Or just do little bits of it when you can. Can't think of anything: try cycling?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Personally, would rather not. Would have preferred a choice. To not exist is a fantasy, for all things to cease, all of this trauma, drama gone. Often wish futurama suicide booths were an actual thing.

But, can see how others would find being alive appealing. One can have some pretty interesting experiences, learn stuff, etc.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Time is the the ultimate enemy its just when is it gonna get us.