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I can't see clearly now dysphoria's gone.
I can clear all obstacles to my peace.
We're all our worst critics in our own heads.
Wanna see your bright, bright beautiful smile.
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My perspective might be a bit different as someone non-binary that is not pursuing HRT at this point in my life. Over the years when I feel dysphoric and don't feel like who is in the mirror matches my perception of myself, I try to take the time to verbally complement myself or say something out loud that I have been having a hard time internally processing.
It helps me to feel like someone is being kind or helpful to me, and that even if the person in the mirror doesn't feel like who I am that they are at the minimum an ally in my journey through life.
I think it’s a good technique! Remember, very few people see you as closely as you see yourself. Most people will miss those little details and go for the vibe, which is what you’re tricking your brain into doing here.
yes, exactly! I want to be able to see what others are seeing 😅 Impossible, of course, but this was a way to at least undermine my brain worms a little, lol
Yesss! One of the best parts of my day- waking up in the morning with blurry vision (morning vision+no glasses/contacts), removing my silk bonnet, having my hair gently fall out, and seeing myself from my standing mirror across the room. My hair looks beautiful, skin glowing, and I feel soo cozy. I get to see all the work the HRT is doing without being super critical of the things that are still shaping and changing!
omg, are you me!? I also sleep with my hair up in a silk bonnet and wake up in the morning without my glasses and sometimes have these moments, I could have literally written your comment myself. For me there is also something about early morning lighting that helps the skin look smooth and soft, too - I don't turn the lights on because everything is so bright still, and I see myself in the mirror like you're saying without my glasses and with that fresh post-sleep skin and in that lighting, it's just the closest thing to seeing myself sometimes.
Yesss!! 🩷 It's always so nice knowing we're not alone on this journey!
do a very similar thing ourselves, super valid
I also do this! As soon as the contacts come out, the dysphoria softens.
Oh, that could work. I like it!
Sounds a bit like when I catch my reflection in a window or whatever: I don't see any of the details and can perceive it how I want.