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A Message to American Members of our Community (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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As election day nears in the United States it can be a stressfull, scary and anxious time for everyone. As such, the moderators and I felt it important to say a few words.

Remember that your voice is essential. Every vote counts, and showing up to the polls empowers our community and influences the change we deserve. If you have not yet voted, please ensure you have a plan.

The National Center for Transgender Equality offers an excellent checklist aimed specifically at trans voters. It contains instructions for what to do on voting day, as well as information to show to poll workers that advocates for your rights. Please print and carry the document with you.

Stay Safe While Voting

For those of you voting in person, prioritze your safety. Bring a friend if possible, stay aware of your surroundings, and remember it’s okay to leave and return another time if you feel unsafe. If you ever feel threatened, don’t hesitate to contact local authorities or seek a safe space nearby.

Crisis Support

If you or someone you know needs immediate support, here are some US-based resources (from GLAAD):

We do not consider the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline a safe resource for the trans community due to their history of involving local law enforcement without the caller's consent, which can result in indefinite detainment.

Mutual Aid and Support

Reach out for support or mutual aid if you need it. This community is available to all who need to discuss issues, get something off their chest, or find support. We allow mutual aid requests with prior approval from the moderation team, so reach out to us. In addition, the following communities and resources are available for mutual aid or support:

The best mutual aid and support is local. We encourage everyone to research trans advocacy groups around them, local queer facebook pages, and keep connected with their community.

A Personal Note from Emily

As someone watching from Australia, I want you to know that you are not alone in this. The international community is watching this election closely, and most of us feel a deep anger that your rights can be and are on the ballot.

This specific trans community and each member is extremely important to me. You make the world a better place. I care deeply about your safety, your voice, and your wellbeing. No matter how things seem right now, know that there’s a global community standing in solidarity with you, holding hope, and offering support in every way we can.

Please stay safe, take care of yourself, and reach out for support when its necessary.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm scared. I cant pay attention worth a damn at work today so I'm replying here.

Im going to a queer event tomorrow with lots of friends, but i know were all freaked out. I live in a progressive pocket of a deep red state.

I dont know what to do with myself. If tmrw goes well, relief and celebration.

If not? Fuck. I truly dont know.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I guess in the worst case scenario you continue to try to build strong mutual aid networks and focus on the actual needs of yourself and your community, whether that is helping people move to safe states, getting access to hormones, etc. Anti-trans legislation is putting trans lives at risk in red states whether Trump wins or not, so it's good to focus on what is important and to work together.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago

Big bearded cishet mountainy fucker here for y'all both conceptually and have put word out around locally that I'm free all day if anyone feels unsafe going alone.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Hello from All -- What's up trans friends!

So yeah, #1 priority is be safe; but also know that voter intimidation is... apparently only a misdemeanor?! I thought this shit was like 10 years... ...in any case, it's an enforceable offense, so if you see that bullshit happening, ~~don't be afraid to call it in. If the cops in your area aren't absolute dogshit, then 9-1-1 ought to do~~, (edit - uh... maybe scratch that... See the responses to this comment) but there appear to be some state-specific resources too:

Blatantly stealing the info @[email protected] posted over on YSK:

Just imagine the schadenfreude high you'll get from watching some bigot get shoved into a squad car!!

In any case, go kick some ass at at the ballot box! (by like, voting for people who aren't nazis - don't go and kick literal ass, or YOU'LL be the one getting called in). Good luck!!

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 days ago

Blatantly stealing the info @[email protected] posted over on YSK:

How dare you!

(Just kidding, thanks for spreading the info. If anyone needs to be vigilant in this election, it's queer people.)

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Telling trans people to call the cops is ignorant. Cops aren’t there to protect minorities, they kill them.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Well, hence the 'if the cops in your area aren't absolute dogshit' disclaimer, with a list of a state-specific plan-b's contingent on the cops in your area infact being absolute dogshit.

I, perhaps naively, like to cling to the belief that there are at least few departments that adhere to the community-servant ideal concept of applying their power... But again, if that unicorn doesn't describe your local dept, there's the list.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

That disclaimer isn’t good enough and it implies the idea that not all cops are dangerous. I live in a place with about the ‘least’ amount of cop violence and queerphobia and I have friends who have been beat up and harassed by the cops for being queer.

Don’t normalise cops in trans spaces, it can get people hurt.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

Can confirm, I have a trans friend IRL who was followed into a parking lot by an off-duty police office and physically assaulted by him unprovoked. It's fair to assume no police are safe for trans folks.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

Well fuck, sorry to hear that. I live in the cousin-fuckingly deep south and have always kinda hoped that shit was better in the more sane states.

Addendum:

Bring a CIS vanilla ally, and if shady shit happens, get the fuck out of there while they make the call.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago

Bingo. The non-emergency numbers might be helpful though.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

I just wanna go in on Tuesday, Vote, go to bed, and wake up several days later when it's all over so I don't lose sleep anxiously looking at results every few hours.

I'm mentally exhausted thinking about it constantly:

  • Am I going to be harrassed for daring to be registered as not-republican in a red state?
  • Am I going to be targeted for being a non-republican working for the government?
  • If the wrong person wins, am I going to be put against the wall when people put two and two together (IRL + internet personae)?
[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)
  • If the wrong person wins, am I going to be put against the wall when people put two and two together (IRL + internet personae)?

I literally came out to my parents about a week ago because of this question. I wish I'd done it sooner because I found that I'd been scared for mostly no reason. Furthermore, turns out 20-ish years of supressed dysphoria is reaaaally bad for your mood, self-worth, screws up your ability to function as a normal person and generally destroys your enthusiasm for life. Got used to it and didn't even realize I was experiencing it but coming out to my parents also caused all of that to come out too.

Uuuhh, anyway, I just kinda figured that, between domestic and foreign spying agencies, the US government probably already knew I was trans, even if my family didn't. As such, there wasn't any reason not to come out anymore; might as well go out waving my flag, yanno?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Yeeeeeah, it'd be nice, except I have the same boss as my dad. And we both sit within 10 feet of the water cooler. In an office full of old white dudes. Who have regularly made the classic sarcastic "i identify as" jokes.

I'm not particularly masochistic, nor do I want to potentially fuck over my own dad's retirement.

I'd rather be living in a different (and non-red) state where nobody knows me or him before I make any moves.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Oof, that sucks. I'm also in a deep red state, but I'm lucky enough to live in a city. It makes me sad that, even within our community, we have such radically different experiences with parents. If my dad was more emotive and my mom was more emotionally stable then I'd probably try roping them into being a mom and dad for the local LGBT and furry communities. Maybe some day.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Pretty sure my mom would be supportive and my dad would be indifferent-ish, just... don't want to deal with backlash in an area where EVERYONE knows him by name. Don't want him to have to deal with people talking behind his back.

Ohio isn't like, the reddest of red, but it's fairly up there. The KKK knows not to do things in public usually, and they get heavily counter protested if they do, and fuck me it's depressing to even be able to type that what the fuck...

Trump flags everywhere, coal-rolling jackasses with giant Trump flags, punisher flags/stickers, etc...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I Voted, yaaay! Promptly put two "i voted" stickers on my shirt over nipples when I got back to my car.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Sames, I went in for early voting tho, so I dodged the crowds, but those same questions have been keeping me up at night as well. I've been obsessively thinking about where I could possibly go if I wanted to keep being true to myself

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I know it's probably unfounded, but i just don't trust mail-in voting this time around. Too much shit happened to USPS due to trump/DeJoy, and living in a hard-red state, I just don't trust that my vote would not be ignored.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Depending on your state they do provide in person early voting alongside mail ballots. That's what I did, though they are often times in different locations than what you're told and you have to go looking

[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago

I just want you to know that I appreciate what you're doing with this post. It's important information, and just as importantly it reminds those of us who may be feeling alone in this difficult time that they are not alone. There are others who are in the same position as them and who care about them.

So thanks. <3

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Hello am an ally and one who tries to not post here but voting matters so I'm breaking my rule.

If you don't feel safe voting, find your neighborhood link or DIY person and ask for an escort. If they are worth their battlevest they'll gladly keep your safe.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Why do you try not to post here? (I just want you to feel welcome as an ally!)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I appreciate the thought but I consider this a safe place for teams folks and want y'all to have and enjoy that.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

We centre trans people but cis folks (or folks who aren't sure!) are always welcome

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Ah, I think they just don't want people who are anti-trans posting here - I think allies are fine. If you do have questions about trans folks that you feel wouldn't be welcome here, you're always free to DM me and I can try to help answer them.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago

For real, especially now more than ever, we need our cis allies to be involved, too. You are all welcome, as long as you're not bringing any anti-trans speech. (Though, you can count on us to clarify things if you're unsure. Doe is hopeful.)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

Will do, thank you!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Also I would have strongly encouraged people to vote by mail.