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TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name

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Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

I just see it as a hassle. Like why even bother? She would have to explain why she wants to take my name and I would try talking her out of it "What if we get a divorce in 7 years or so? Do you just have to change it back then?" I'm sure that would go over well

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

Marrying Jeffery Combs is like marrying 300 men at the same time, though. Every day he can just act like a different alien.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 hours ago

" I don't know who you are anymore!
I love it!"

[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 hours ago

You can't expect a regressive to understand evolution. They are going backward faster than the rest of us are moving forward.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 10 hours ago (4 children)

My fiance and I are considering creating a brand new last name that we both take.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago

You can share mine. Personally I don't like it, but maybe you will.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 hours ago

I recommend Dax

[–] [email protected] 19 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 hours ago

Warning: Taken from decades-old memories of things that I wasn't involved in or paying much attention to! Anyway...

In Virginia a man sued the state like 30 years ago because they wanted to charge him to change his name, when a woman could change her name free when she got married. The state could either have charged women or made it free for all. They chose the later.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

I'm pretty sure both of us had the option of changing our names when we got married and when we got divorced.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I've known other people who do that.

I just feel like any name change that you don't need (i.e. you're transitioning) is just more bother than it's worth.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, that's what we are running into. The marriage forms here in NC make it simple to take the husband's last name as part of the process, but any other kind of change requires a lot of crazy, expensive, and time consuming steps.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 hours ago

I wonder if there's an opening there to claim discrimination on the basis of sex.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago

I got the biggest hassle from Delta Airlines on my stupid Skymiles account.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 hours ago (7 children)

There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work... Best case scenario it's an annoying hassle to deal with.

Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that's mostly because we also share the same first name so it's hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn't need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 hours ago

My wife meant to take my name, but then we never did the paperwork. So we just left it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 hours ago

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

'Why should I have to change? He's the one who sucks!' -Michael Bolton

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 hours ago

You both share three same first name as well? That sounds very confusing for your peers

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[–] [email protected] 81 points 16 hours ago (4 children)

There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

  1. She didn't want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

  2. She didn't want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Also some names just sound better. And some names go better than others with some surnames

[–] [email protected] 21 points 15 hours ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 hours ago (7 children)

What the fuck makes my name any better than hers? Fuck my name. I don't even want it.

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[–] [email protected] 134 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

Women, don't marry men who won't take your name. That's a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won't be the only one.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 16 hours ago (5 children)

I took my wife's name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 16 hours ago

And don't marry a man who insists you take his. That's a wall of control he's building around you and he won't stop until he's separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it's your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I only recently found out he was Brunt as well as Weyoun. And had no idea about the others. (I still haven't gotten around to Enterprise.) What a talented guy!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

BRUNT, FCA

DS9 casually nailing it with ferengi actors. Even the cousin was great

[–] [email protected] 25 points 14 hours ago (9 children)

It's fiancée. Fiancé is male.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 14 hours ago

Today I Learned! I had no idea there was a difference. Apparently they are pronounced the same, it's only a written difference.

But it seems like in English fiancé is becoming a gender neutral term

Dictionary.com — Fiancé vs Fiancée

[–] [email protected] 12 points 14 hours ago

So is it a red flag, then, that my husband did not take my last name? And if it's a gay couple, which one is complaining?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

If Matt Walsh wasn’t openly a male supremacist I’d say it should be turned around on him.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Every time I see one of his shit takes on here for a moment a think of the actor Matt Walsh and think “oh no the funny guy is a shitbag?!”

But no it’s always this other asshole, at least I hope

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

Nah that guy's an upright citizen.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 13 hours ago

I almost kept my maiden, but now it's an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo's because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.

Sometimes, it's really that simple. My husband didn't care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 15 hours ago (5 children)

Yet another conservative weakchin hiding behind a beard.

They're certainly going for a look right now.

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[–] [email protected] 46 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

It's heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It's exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

The compromise is clearly to swap last names with each other

[–] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I have some friends that got married and decided to merge their two last names and create a brand new last name. I thought it was a cool idea

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 16 hours ago

I think it’s safe to say that Walsh knows a lot about women maintaining “walls of separation”. Maybe even restraining orders.

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