Sky I am so sorry your dysphoria feels this way. It's an illusion and you look good. Don't put yourself through that hateful bullshit.
this post was submitted on 13 Sep 2023
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Dude chill, you seem like you are having a mental health at the moment but you seriously don't look that bad. You don't look super conventional but also you don't look awful or anything either. You just look like some random girl. It is all fine.
I'm just tired of hating who I see in pictures or in the mirror
I literally go to college with a cis woman who looks like you. To say the least, she is well-loved. Don't beat yourself up over your looks.
I wish I could make things better for you, and I hope you find yourself one way or another, but for whatever it's worth I will say this: daaaaamn you have amazing hair! I wish mine had that kind of volume!
I wish I had hair on my head 🥺
I deserve to be put in my place
Word.
You look fine and like a chick, but you're making your inability to see that everyone else's problem.
Giving ammo to truscum? Reinforcing their worldview to feel pain? There are ways to self-harm that don't harm others. Try some.
Or learn to fucking love yourself. That choice is probably better.
You want abuse? Alright:
Stop being an annoying bitch.
You fish for validation and then refuse to take it when it's offered to you.
You don't know me. We're not friends. I don't care enough to lie to you and I certainly am not here to shunt your dysphoria onto.
Fuck off with this, "I'm not pretty, woe is me!" crap.
You look fine. If you don't believe it that's unfortunate but stop trying to get people to agree with your warped world view. It won't make you feel better if other people back you up and continuously trying is pissing at least a single person off.
You look fine but your attitude is real ugly today.
You look great. Everyone thinks they look worse than they really do. We are our own worst critics.
I like your hair! It's very similar to mine and I hope I can get mine grown out that long.
Its just I feel like only the first and second photo are realistic, and the others are highly unreasltic. I hate how I look in the first photo, and pretty much the same goes for the second too. When people say they all look good it hurts cause it proves myself right. I hate them!!
Them as in the first two photos
Hey, if you ever need to talk, we're here for you. You're far from alone and felt the same way as you in year 1-2 on hrt
I just feel awful, I feel like I'm a frakenstien of male fat mixed with low tier effects from E, I look so awful!!!