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submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Neighbours recently had their home remodelled, which involved them putting new glazing in their bathroom. The glass is not frosted enough and there's a lot to see.

They are large windows too, starting at knee hight. How do I bring this up?

Bonus points if someone can tell me why this community keeps showing my subscription as pending.

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[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The framing in this conversation is important. This is difficult, but making it clear you'd rather not see that is how I'd go.

I'd tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.

No way around it, it's going to be a bit awkward, but telling them shouldn't seem like a weird thing to do. If you're polite, telling them about the issue is a kind thing to do.

Maybe a note outside their door? Could be anonymous if you don't know them well and they don't have cameras, saves both you and them the awkwardness

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'd drop a note, to avoid the awkward conversation that might happen & to avoid embarrassing your neighbour.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Even an anonymous note in their mailbox saying something to the effect of: "FYI, I can still see your naughty bits, not that I'm looking."

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Just tell them. If that was me I’d wanna know ASAP!

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Go there, ring the bell, tell them. The longer you wait the creepier that conversation is going to be.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

And when you do it, make sure you stare at them unblinkingly to assert dominance.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

“They did a really neat job with your appendix scar”

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I have no idea what to do about the not-so-frosty windows, but regarding your bonus question, that's just lemmy being laggy. Next time you refresh you'll see that you're subscribed. I had the same question yesterday and saw it being answered somewhere.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Send them a dick pick of their own dick. that glass will be frosty the next time you see it.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

You’re going to have to post a few pictures for us to better asses the situation 🤣

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Invite him over while she is taking a shower. Enjoy the view together. Let them draw their own conclusions.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Send them this article, and flee the country. 0 interactions.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

We need photo evidence to verify your claims.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

just tell them asap. idk who tf thought it'd be a good idea to put windows in a bathroom.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Windows in a bathroom let in so much natural light, I always feel much more comfortable with windows (even really big ones) as long as all the important parts aren't visible from outside.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Probably someone not fond of mold I guess.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Bring up this issue happening with you, in casual conversation. For example: "when I moved here the house had a lot of issues, for example [...] and the glass was not frosted enough. We eventually fixed this [...]"

The idea here is that you won't be telling them directly, they're going to realise it on their own.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

I love this haha, I live in NZ and people here are very indirect and non confrontational.

I'm Dutch so quite the opposite.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I was working with a Dutch guy, he'd just flown back to Netherlands and I sent him an email that went something like:

Hi Jan,

Hope you made it back ok,

<work question>

Cheers,
Dandan

He replied inline to my email and under "Hope you made it back ok" he wrote " >I do not understand why this is relevant"

this post was submitted on 17 Jun 2023
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