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People who gave up on "the dream", do you regret it? How are you? (lemm.ee)

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Honestly convincing my dad is the hard part, he's still pulling for me to be a tech wiz set for life with a developer job, but I haven't written an original project since before the plague hit, and I haven't had much real hope of beating the HR bot resume roulette wheel since before even that.

Now I'm wondering if I should try back for an IT cert in my management training or just lean into having been good enough at arithmetic and go for a cert in accounting to focus less on career ambitions and more on just having food on the table and putting my dream energy into something else outside of work hours.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I’m happy it finally ended. I’ve been able to move on to a completely different life that I actually like much better. Not everything works out and that’s ok. We all think we know what our “dream” is until it’s a nightmare.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Better. I'd rather work with reality than endlessly chase fantasies which I'll never reach.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

My dream was the stereotypical actress one, but I never had the confidence to really go for it despite people telling me I'd do well.

Honestly, I regretted not doing it for a span of time, but everything I've learned both about the industry and me as a person since then made me realize that it probably would have made me miserable, even if I'd "made it."

The price of fame, to me, wouldn't have been worth it. The fakeness of Hollywood, the constant networking/having to deal with people who have a whole host of personality disorders that make them seek out that job, a life constantly being looked into, the persisting pedo problem, the Harvey Weinsteins, etc... I enjoy acting, it's super fun, but I'm glad I went a different route.

I'm a substation designer now.

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