LGBTQ+

Yeah unfortunately bigotry exists everywhere. In general I meet less LGBT people who are bigoted, but they definitely exist. The short answer for how they can hold these contradictory beliefs is, they think of themselves as different in some fundamental way.

In the case of transphobia among gay lesbian and bisexual people, often they believe that transphobic people accept them. They believe that transphobic people are not also homophobic, and that if they themselves express transphobia than transphobic people will accept them even more. Its an attempt to appeal to straight people along the lines of "I'm not like them, I hate them, I'm one of the good ones so you shouldn't discriminate against me". Sadly (for them), they are wrong in this regard. From the perspective of a transphobic straight cisgender person I am not a trans woman - they instead see me as a gay man. And they seek equally to discriminate against me, and do so by repurposing old homophobia from the 80s against me and people like me.

Transphobic queer people have at some stage either bought into the propaganda of conservative homophobia and believe it should solely be weaponized on trans people, or else they think that appealing to transphobic people will protect them from discrimination.

Theres not much you can do unfortunately. Studies show consistently that attempting to deradicalize hatred is nearly impossible. It takes them breaking down their own hatred through introspection and self awareness. Its like asking for a miraculous change of heart, you sadly can't make it happen. No amount of educating them generally works, no amount of deconstructing their beliefs helps. Its like the adage says "You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into".

A trans person on /tttt/ telling me, a person who has been diagnosed with GD by multiple different doctors, living in intense sorrow because of that GD, going through the financial, social, legal, and medical struggles of gender transition as we speak, and has been the victim of some really harsh transphobia, that I should be legally restricted from transition simply because I am non-binary.

That, among other experiences, made me viscerally terrified of the trans community.

I once was at a party with nothing but gay Republicans. 🙄

Story time.

Back on reddit I would frequent the psychoTherapyLeftist sub and this fellow autistic posted a link to a book "The Autistic Subject: On the threshold of language". His analysis of the book was amazing and it convinced me to snag a copy. The book opens by saying it embraced autism as a mode of being, a very validating statement that put me at ease and does vertebrate through the book. Sadly this acquaintance also posted a video about how he's a homosexual but not gay 💔.