My wife (33F) and I (33M) have 3 kids, twins (13M and 13F) and a boy 8M. Both of our sons are autistic, our daughter is not. Our sons are both very smart academically, our daughter is average academically.
Our oldest son, Bryce and our daughter, Amanda have their 8th grade dance coming up later this month. Bryce is friends with this girl (Zoe, 13F) from a group at his school run by autistic students, they would be a cute couple if Bryce wasn’t gay. Zoe is always at our house and her and Bryce have very similar special interests and are best friends.
The kids were at school on Friday when Zoe got asked out by Carson (13M), who’s one of the most popular boys in the school. Carson and his baseball teammates have helped our son in the past after he was bullied for being gay, and he seems like an amazing boy.
When the kids got home, we asked them how their day was and Bryce mentioned what happened, Amanda then made a comment about how it was “ridiculous” on how Zoe got a date before her and said that Carson was probably “doing it out of pity”. Bryce started to argue with her and Zoe wouldn’t back down.
My wife and I tried to talk to Zoe but she kept insisting she was in the right and said she wouldn’t apologize. My wife and I told her if she doesn’t apologize to Bryce for insulting his friend that she wouldn’t be able to go to the dance. She said we’re being unfair and has been arguing with us off and on ever since. AITA?