me eating an entire field of broccoli because Radio Gaga by Queen came on
(I was psychology tortured by that song when it was used to test the PA system on the cruise ship I worked on 24 hours a day for a whole week with no interruptions)
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Look into DOR (division of responsibility) food practices. It’s designed to have a more positive relationship with food. So no bargaining, no gorging on sugars, more trust. It’s hard to wrap your head around but it’s evidence based and works well for my kids who are at risk for poor food relationship with foods due to past traumas. It’s suitable for any kids.
@hitmyspot @dadsplain I think that is kind of what we've been doing. I didn't know it was a named method. We don't force her to finish her meals completely. She just needs some encouragement to improve the vegetable variety in her diet.
Its much more than just not forcing to finish, it that's where it starts. Inthibk for me it clicked when I started doing it and was still in the jabit s I had learned as a kid to finish your plate and I was telling elder kid at 5 to do ish his chips (fries). It occurred to me that I didn't want him particularly to eat the fries. It was just bad habit.
Friends and strangers are shocked when my youngest who has a sweet tooth declines cake or ice cream when not hungry.
The concept is that by restricting it, it becomes a forbidden fruit kind of thing to consume when available. Making it more available (but still maintaining control of when and how much) allowsnthem to eat intuitively when needed. Also to never look at their nutrition through the lens of one meal but over a week. If they font eat their carrots today but have had plenty of fruit and vegetables over the last week, why stress?
That's quite a trick without being tricky. I like it!
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it's very different systems tho and the devs have moro important things todo than fix that, or maybe it's too hard to fix
I'm not a parent, but wouldn't you just wait your kid's hunger out? Like, they'll get hungry enough to eat vegetables eventually, they're not going to starve themselves to death. Once they've had a serving of vegetables, it's back to the regular diet.
@threeduck @dadsplain That is still kind of my instinct, but my daughter's pickiness got to the point that it affected her health. Fortunately, we've made enough progress over the past few years that that problem is behind us. Now we're just working on variety. We're not forcing her to clean her plate. She just needs some encouragement and light pressure to figure out how to enjoy more than one type of vegetable.
My parents just yelled at me until i ate them so probably avoid doing that.