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I find it to be the opposite, I make enough that I haven't checked my bank account while making a purchase in a long time.

My friends are almost offended when I offer to cover dinners and nights out. I'm not trying to show off with my buddies, I just know $400-500 isn't a lot to me and for them it's a week's pay but I really like hanging out with them.

So I try to compromise in that I'll cover dinner if they cover bowling or something like that.

How the hell do these people know how much you make?

Fuck's sake, I don't make $450k but my neighbor doesn't ask me for shit because he has no idea what kind of money I make in the first place.

Either you live in the wrong neighborhood or maybe you need to keep your mouth shut? idfk lol

The more I make... Well nothing changes.

We have helped friends out on various occasions to varying degrees.

Nobody demands shit from us let alone asks. Ok well, asking to donate to a school thing maybe.

Idk what kind of weirdos surround you but that sucks. Do you live in a gold plated house in the suburbs or something? Or are the matching Bentleys in the garage tipping them off? :)

They don't expect you to pay for everything. Everyone who knows people like that also knows that they'll easily get the money they need elsewhere.

It's honestly kinda sad that people like you, who seem to be generally generous and willing to help out, get driven towards this mindset.

I'm pretty sure more than half of the money I give to beggars occasionally will be spent on booze and drugs, but I don't really care. But when I do it I am the one who makes the decision to basically throw away my money. Plus if I lend someone money I consider it gone forever. But I never let someone guilt trip me into lending them money and I will aggressively call anyone out who tries. You seem to have a ton of really shitty people around you. Take care.

When I have had money, I made loans to people, with the knowledge that I might not get paid back, and if I wasn't, well, generally the amounts were little enough that that one time cost of letting someone test themselves on repayment wasn't that high. If it had been a constant thing, like you seem to be having, I don't know that I could have kept that up. At the very least, I've been cutting out a lot of people over time. Sucks that you've been having to deal with that.

Sounds like a call to up the quality of peeps in your life?

Sounds like your friends just suck. Where do you live? Maybe it's a culture thing?

This is why you can never tell anyone if you receive an inheritance or a lotto win.

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Honestly I think paying for other people's stuff is the mentality of being poor. People without money help each other out because we know that our support network is other people, not our income.

You need to stop buying 9 or 10 rounds of coffee. That's hundreds of dollars. Buy better beans once and make 10 pots instead. Or get an espresso machine if you need to. It's super easy, and more fun.

I started a new job in a secure building (I thought).

Coffee was crap so i brought in my Chemex pour over coffee maker. Made a pot and shared with my team often.

3 weeks in someone stole my Chemex off of my desk (I left it there).

No one offered anything to me even tho I've made them hundreds of dollars worth of coffee. And i didnt ask or hold it against them.

I was being nice. I didn't have an agenda or test people. I lost my chemex. Shit happens. I bought a new one and kept it in my desk. Still kept making coffee for the fellas.

In some places $20 is just over minimum wage these days. But you couldn't afford to live in those places on $20/hr.

I live in a pretty LCOL area and I feel like 20 dollars an hour is the least you have to make to rent a studio apartment and live on your own. I make about that and barely afford rent on a townhouse with 2 other people. It feels like 20 dollars an hour, nowadays, is somewhat equivalent to 8 dollars an hour, twenty years ago. Its sad, but it doesn't feel like a good wage anymore.

Denver has a minimum wage of $15/hr now, and you're def not living comfortably on that.

$450k is pretty far from an average salary for a software engineer, too.

With inflation, $20 today is $12 in 2004

Probably 20$/hr including tips

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