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I want to know what Japan is like from people who actually live in Japan especially after seeing some misleading posts online from people who don't live in Japan & people misunderstanding something resulting in people being misleadingly negative about Japan

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[–] [email protected] 116 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I’m a permanent resident of Japan and am raising a family here. I think you would get better responses if you posed more specific questions, or provided examples of what kind of misunderstandings people have experienced and posted about online.

I find Japan a pleasant place to live, but it is far from perfect, just like any society. The cost of living is quite reasonable compared to many other countries, which makes the lower salaries go further.

People are generally friendly, but you sometimes have to read between the lines, as people tend to be less direct so as to avoid confrontation (“It is a little difficult” is a polite way to say “No!” for example).

Anyway, if you have any other questions I’ll be around.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, 建前 and 本音 are definitely a thing to get used to, heh. I agree, specific questions are definitely helpful to answer

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

What is the first word? Google translated it to the pronunciation, but said the second word means "true feelings"

[–] [email protected] 22 points 8 months ago (1 children)

tatemae is the romanisation. It is your public attitude, which may be different to your real attitude (hon’ne).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago

Thanks! That makes sense, and is what I guessed, but I wanted to confirm

[–] [email protected] 98 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (4 children)

We don't have subtitles when speaking.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 8 months ago

Bullshit I'm reading your subtitles right now.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago

That's good. Wouldn't want the subtitles to be be against a non-contrasting background so I think you're telling me to eat shit when in fact you're merely offering me some shitake mushrooms.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

Who do you think you're kidding! Next thing you're going to tell me not everybody there likes sniffing schoolgirls' underwear! Preposterous!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago

I have a lot of plans that need reworked.

[–] [email protected] 76 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (14 children)

A Japanese person is only going to be able to answer "it is normal" unless they've lived abroad. Maybe it would be easier to ask them to debunk or confirm those misleading rumors?

Things I can point out from living in japan is:

healthcare is good

streets are clean

every Japanese person has seen at least a few Animes

Basic Japanese TV is 50% food, 30% reactions with facecam, 15% commercials, and once every Friday 1 movie. (Either ghibli, Harry Potter, or home alone).

You don't really need to know Japanese in Tokyo, Kyoto, Osaka, but in less touristy places it would be good to know how to order stuff, talk to cashiers and understanding basic instructions in Japanese.

Akihabara is dying.

Disney is more popular than Anime, and there are far more women than men and children combined at Disneyland and Disney sea.

People stand in line just to play pachinko.

Japan doesn't have pork broth. (Biggest culture shock for me)

There is a place in japan for every single hobby.

Japanese people like uniforms. If they have a hobby that sometimes has uniforms, more often than not, the Japanese person is going to have the full set of the uniform.

It is not considered rude to eat while walking, or talk while eating.

It is considered rude to blow your nose at the table, to pass food from chopstick to chopstick, to eat or talk on phone while on the train.

Houses and apartments are small, but cheap if you live further away from the center.

Living even an hour away from Tokyo, you're still going to have giant cities nearby with everything you need, and everything will be cheaper.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 months ago (2 children)

What do you mean by Akihabara is dying?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago

Everytime I go there, major stores have closed down for good. People seem to shop more online nowadays.

It isn't dead or anything yet, but if this keeps going, it will continue to shrink.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

its less bussling and profitable than it used to be pre covid. some gimmick restaurants and several arcades have closed down.

people are just going to shop on yahoo auctions/amazonjp and such for merch. japan also overtime has been opening up to pc gaming in the past few years (basically the only country in asia where consoles, mainly handheld, is significantly more popular than pcs, where its virtually the reverse elsewhere) (both are smaller than mobile gaming market though combined)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Japan doesn't have pork broth. (Biggest culture shock for me)

As in ramen? Have you ever been to Kyushu? These things are regional.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 8 months ago (1 children)

As in knorr broth dice, etc, for cooking. They have chicken and vegetable consomme, and sometimes beef, but never pork. Ramen has a lot of flavoring, but when it comes to cooking food from your native country, even at speciality stores like Kaldi or Seijouishi, you're lucky to find anything that isn't already widely popular.

As a Swede, pork broth is the basic of basics in cooking, so it was hard to make dishes for when you're homesick.

I have been to a few prefectures in Kyushu, and it was a really nice , but I didn't try the ramen there. I'll give it a try next time I go.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I see. Yeah, consommé is the most prominent stock in the supermarkets, followed by chicken, and like you said beef. I’ve never used pork broth myself, but I wonder if this is what you’re looking for.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago

Akihabara:
Urban shopping area in central Tokyo, Japan. considered by many to be the epicentre of modern Japanese otaku culture, and is a major shopping district for video games, anime, manga, electronics and computer-related goods. Icons from popular anime and manga are displayed prominently on the shops in the area, and numerous maid cafés and some arcades are found throughout the district.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Great response! Just a comment, 食べ歩き (eating while walking) is definitely not seen with good eyes in many places in Japan. Some very touristic streets even have signs to forbid it.

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 8 months ago (2 children)

レミーは英語圏のサイトを圧倒しているし、日本人の大半は英語ができないから、このサイトを利用しない。だから、実際の日本人からの回答は得られない。

[–] [email protected] 30 points 8 months ago (3 children)

[Lemmy] dominates English-speaking sites, and most Japanese people don't use this site because they can't speak English. Therefore, we cannot get answers from actual Japanese people.

translation by Google

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Many parts of Japan are stunningly beatiful. The largest cities are some of the most overwhelming places I've ever been, but everything works much better than you might expect.

The people are generally respectful and kind if you are the same. I found people to be generally tolerant of unintended rudeness from a foreigner, especially if you apologize. Jokes and humility go a long way.

There's a TON of Japanese people there. Like, they're freaking EVERYWHERE.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 8 months ago (1 children)

To this point, the Tokyo skytree may be the most entertaining place I've ever been. You can see so much life happening all around, you can see how far Tokyo sprawls, you can see how large the breadth of humanity can be. If you intensely focus on one small spot of the city, you see a myopic little section, but then you raise up, and see the entirety of "Civilization". It's super impressive. I expected that it would be fun to see, and maybe spend 20 minutes up there looking around. I spent almost 3 hours just examining life.

I'm sure places like this exist elsewhere, Tokyo seems like the perfect place for it though.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

There's a Japanese YouTuber my japanese learning friend would watch called "that Japanese man Yuta" who goes into this

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (8 children)

I know about yuta because I am learning Japanese but I don't think I have seen their other videos outside of learning Japanese

Right now I'm slowly working my way through grammer at a pace that works for me

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago (5 children)

I've even living in Japan for almost a decade (probably closer if you count times I visited for months before living here). If you have specific questions, I'm happy to answer them.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Are everyone's dicks really pixelated?

[–] [email protected] 31 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Having been to many a hot spring, yes (but only in my head).

Edit: seriously, though, sitting in an outdoor bath in the mountains as snow slowly falls is one of life's great simple pleasures

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I've often thought about taking a vacation in Japan, so I have a few genuine questions.

  • What should a visitor see or do that isn't too expensive?
  • I'm a little over 190 cm tall. Are there any popular tourist activities that my height would make more difficult?
  • My ability to communicate in Japanese would consist entirely of using Google Translate on my phone. Would language be a significant barrier to a good visit?

Thanks for making yourself available for this.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago
  • really depends upon what you're into and where you want to go. English ability can drop pretty rapidly outside of the cities, but I got by with and handful of words and gestures when I started visiting
  • not really. Some old building are tough, but you can duck. I have a buddy who's 194cm (I think) and he's fine (born and raised in Japan)
  • not really. I did fine as mentioned it point 1 with some very basic words and I've met plenty of people who knows zero and enjoy their visits
[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

For your first question, maybe take a look at the youtube channel Abroad in Japan.
Usually highlights not so well known locations in various places around japan.

According to some bilingual JP youtube colleagues he is well received in the japanese community.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

I think maybe older abroad in Japan might be fine. Rachael and Jun is another one I used to watch. I consume that type of content less the longer I live here. If you're into outdoorsy stuff Go North Japan is really nice

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You might have to get used to ducking more than usual. And showers in AirBnBs might be too short to wash your shoulders and head. Hotels in the cities are fine in my experience.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I've heard the work culture in Japan, like many Asian countries, can be quite oppressive and sometimes even toxic when compared to its Western counterparts.

Obviously this is highly specific to the workplace in question, and the framing of this statement has inherent biases.

That said, could you offer any insights into the veracity or lack thereof to these claims?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I've only worked at two Japanese companies. My wife has worked at several in her life (and loves her current company and job). I've also read stories of people in bad places asking for advice. I'll answer based on that, but realize that it is not a huge sample size.

"black companies" are very much a thing and take advantage of those that either can't (or feel that they can't) find other work. Recent years have seen laws to reform the number of hours worked and against various forms of "power harassment" (you can google that for what it is, but basically managers/superiors cannot do certain things). My first company in Japan kinda waffled between a company with a ton of overtime, got quite nice, and then went back the opposite direction.

Some of it is just social pressure, which is a big thing in Japan. People don't want to rock the boat, so they will, for example, clock out but keep working, not leave before the boss, etc. Corona causing a lot of people to work from home has changed things, though, and a lot of people who have gone back to the office have a much better understanding of how much useless BS there is and how many hours of their lives they're missing out on. We'll see how it plays out in the future.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (4 children)

I'm not japanese but I want to travel there. We've discovered Takeshii from Japan on YouTube a while ago and I think he is doing a good job in capturing some opinions around different aspects of living in Japan. I'd say it's worth checking.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 8 months ago (4 children)

"Japanese people on lemmy, what is Japan actually like?" "I'm not japanese but..."

[–] [email protected] 28 points 8 months ago

"...here's someone on YouTube who lives in Japan that does a good job of showing what living in Japan is really like."

Seriously, what was wrong with that?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 8 months ago (1 children)

"Japanese people on lemmy, what is Japan actually like?" "..."

wow that's so much better than people trying to help!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago

TIL you can only know things about Japan if you’re Japanese

[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I don't know of any Japanese who really know of Lemmy and I've never seen it mentioned online (though mastadon is at least somewhat known, but not by the average japanese). Also asking in English is going to limit the pool of respondants quite a bit. I'm not japanese but I've been living here since 2015 and speak japanese on a daily basis with my wife and family.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

I have seen them posting on mastodon and pixelfed

But you do have to find them through Japanese specific tags which is easier when learning Japanese (日本語)

You can search for "日本" which is the native name of Japan on mastodon or pixelfed that should give you some results

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

In one sentence or less.

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