Individual responsibility is not how virus transmission during a global pandemic works. If you live in you are in the middle of the second-highest spike in COVID transmission ever. Everybody is getting this shit. She literally cannot wear a mask while having her mouth worked on, and the intersection of dentists who take your insurance, follow your personal COVID rules exactly, and have an appointment when you need it is vanishingly small. Be mad at Fauci, Trump, Biden, Pfizer, and your workplaces, not your girlfriend.

Frustration and aggravation are totally normal and acceptable, and it's good and respectful to your partner to vent here to us instead of to her directly. But I really don't think you have much of a leg to stand on for sustained indignation. You are one, possibly two, in a wave of millions of cases. This is just what's happening. Chances are you will both be OK.

Rooting for the both of you.

sorry people are arguing if you're allowed to feel this way in your vent post about how you feel

I think it’s okay to be upset initially, but you shouldn’t blame your partner.

It’s been 4 years and you didn’t get it until now, that’s much much longer than the majority of people. Even wearing high quality masks and getting boosters and being careful my wife caught it.

You can do everything right, but it’s a game of probabilities. 99% effective procedures over a long enough period will still fail.

It’s more mild now than ever, it spreads easier now than ever, and it sounds like you’ve been getting your boosters so you’ve probably got decent immunity.

If you’re already feeling gross then you probably got it around the same time as her and your body just has a different time to showing symptoms than hers. Or it could be psychosomatic and you’re so worried about symptoms that you’re convincing yourself you have them.

And even though she has it, there’s still a chance you can mask indoors and keep separate and not get it.

You can vent here all you want. It's fine.

And yeah, I'm annoyed that my own family doesn't really take it seriously.

I'm probably getting what I think may be my sixth booster shot next month.

Does she get to be pissed off at you if you bring it home next time? It's your partner, shit happens, suck it up and go make her a honey lemon tea or something.

Open the windows at least a crack, turn on a fan and an air purifier, set the humidity to 40%, and have her isolate in a bedroom. Viral load is a big deal.

You've posted about you've been extra careful partly for her sake, because you love her so much. Beyond that... go go gadget teacher's immune system?!?

Very telling that most of the people bashing OP are new here and probably aren’t aware of c/covid and the culture this site has about taking COVID seriously. OP’s one hundred percent justified, people bashing him are cowards.

As others have said, you're probably misdirecting some amount of anger onto her than against society but we don't know all the details so it's hard to know how much she cares about you, society, etc. I'm guessing low-quality masks means surgical masks or cloth masks because she complains about N95s being uncomfortable or something.

I'm also assuming you're wondering how much of her taking COVID seriously at all is just because of you. So I don't know, it's a bad situation for everyone. COVID definitely exposed how fucking stupid most westoids are and I already didn't like people so I'm keen to cut people out and write them off. You'll probably be better gently telling her (or reiterating) how you feel about COVID and stuff if you want to continue being around her.

Anger is a valid response. Good luck, hopefully you noped out fast enough.

Start boosting your fluids and make sure you're getting your electrolytes. If coughing irritates the throat make some honey lemon tea. If you start sweating from a fever lay down on a towel and change it out when it gets wet - dont let cold wet blankets make you feel worse. Sipping warm broth is a nice savory alternative to sweet drinks to stay hydrated and put something warm and soothing in your stomach. If coughing causes muscle discomfort in your chest do some slow breathing exercises and stretches to keep your muscles limber and relaxed. You might find pairing that with a hot water bottle or heating pad to be even more effective. Best of luck. And hey, venting is okay, it's a good way to get out some of the bad vibes, mental health is good for your physical recovery too.

Not gonna lie, if it was me I would be proper pissed off. Especially when you've been warning her for years

I see the other responses that you shouldn't be too angry at your partner and i think I mostly agree with that, but I also feel where you're coming from.

to my knowledge, I've had covid only once. it was November 2020, and I got it from my at-the-time partner who was working at a place ran by a conspiracy theorist who believed in ancient giants and didn't believe in covid, so they didn't wear masks in the workplace. my partner started feeling off and went and got tested. it was positive. my partner told their boss who replied "oh, those are actually the same symptoms I've been having lately!"

we did our best to isolate them in the small place we lived but I still ended up testing positive a few days later :/

what a garbage fucking thread. OP makes a vent post and then random idiots march in to scold OP for venting about his real feelings and to minimize COVID.

god this thread is trash, it’s like no one’s seen a vent post before (yeah yeah I know )

people can be angry without being 100% correct after doing a material analysis or something, sometimes they just want to get it out