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Anyone knows this sentence? I had a lot of people saying that when I was younger. I also knew alcohol would do magic to my anxiety.

By now I've learned that it doesn't need alcohol to have people actually liking you.

I mean. I'm still anxiety-me. But surrounding myself with people who like me.

And right now to feels useless to write this, like it doesn't have a point. Excuse me..

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I do find a drink or two helps me to feel more comfortable in social situations (it gets me to relax and talk more), but I’ve never been drunk and the idea of being drunk sounds like 0 fun.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Used to go all in. Meanwhile I'm in my 30' and decided to not drink alcoholic beverages anymore. Trying to become more myself or Real me.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Drunk people are just awful to be around in my opinion

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I have the same opinion. Am terrified of drunk people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Only if you're sober

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When I drink to socialize I get anxious later because I can't replay the entire conversation in my head and know if I said anything weird

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, hangovers are bad enough, not remembering what I said or did really makes the fallout of drinking not worth it for me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

is also toxic

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago

This is useful to people like me who who have also relied too heavily on alcohol to cope with anxiety.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

It seems so easy to skip feeling anxious with booze. I always kinda want to for bigger parties. but, the Consequences :(

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

People without a little anxiety are insufferable. Anxiety prevents everyone from just spraying mental vomit everywhere.

What they actually mean is they think other people are more fun when they're drunk.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

Hm, never thought about it this way...

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

I went to a concert last night with a very drug forward crowd. I got a ticket for a seat at a table, happened to be next to a rope divider. A bunch of people moved it and started hanging out and dancing and kept knocking into me.

This girl at one point bumped into my foot instead of my leg, then told the others I kicked her. Those guys started threatening me, and she started running around the venue telling everyone and rousing up a mob.

I obviously just left. I think I'm not going to that venue anymore, I love the spot but I simply do not do enough drugs to relate to the people who go there anymore. 😂

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I've only been to one "party" and I don't know If this has anything to do being quiet or being noticed as anxious, but I've been told this framed like "you know, your social behaviour is a little weird when you're sober, so maybe getting drunk makes you a little more normal" (this sounded a little like Homeopathy, where like cures like). This is the only thing I can imagine he could have been implying. I never have been drunk. Anonymous friend was really into drinking. Our group of friends just lived past these occasionally intolerant moments from him, so It wasn't that bad, and he didn't support right wing extremism last time I checked, so I can't be sure he non-jokingly has negative feelings towards people who don't act like him. I don't really know what to say here. I understand being afraid of the consequences of drinking, like loss of memory and loss of control (the point), and I don't really ever expect to want to drink.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Your comments are more fun when you're drunk